Do you/your spouse have friends like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:and they do nothing for you?

I have friends where they will help build our deck and we help hardwood their floor, etc

or I drive them to take their car to the shop and vis versa.

One time the wife offered to help me with something, so I accepted her offer. It took her more than a week to get back to me, at which point I had already taken care of what I needed to. Not a big deal, but let's just say they are strivers that do a lot of self-promoting on social media, etc. but when it comes down to it, no, I have never felt that I could contact them if I really need something.

And I don't feel this way about other friends in the same circle, (meaning I feel I could contact them if I needed something).

I wouldn’t be friends with someone that post that much on social media.

[Anonymous]

I have literally never heard of anyone behaving in such a selfish manner, OP. I'm 45.

Your husband needs to realize that this is way, way, out of the norm!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Absolutely do not have friends or family as such.

They’re Users and probably think you and your husband are beneath them.

The wife has pretty much made comments as such, but I kept trying to rationalize it away. . . Then again many in our friend group have distanced themselves from her (and hence them as a couple), while continuing to invite us. It's a little frustrating that DH doesn't see it, but I have to remind myself that's a him problem.

It’s a bummer that your DH doesn’t see it. My favorite part of being friends with this couple would be making fun of them with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, people like this do exist. There's a similarly difficult couple at our country club, and the woman, in particular, is known for repeatedly overstepping boundaries. She frequently exaggerates or fabricates details about her lifestyle and routinely asks other mothers to look after her child, who, regrettably, rarely seems to be her priority. She’s also known for constantly seeking favors from women in our tennis group, often without offering anything in return or showing basic courtesy. She comes across as a calculated user, and that perception is widely shared by those who’ve interacted with her. At some point, it’s worth asking yourself: What exactly are you and your husband gaining from this friendship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, because those aren't friends. They're users. Guarantee once your DH starts saying no, they'll stop wanting to hang out with you.

This x 1,000,000

These are not friends. They are acquaintances who are big-time users and takers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hate to say this, but he may be having an affair with one or both of them.
Sorry.

This.