Guy canceled both dates

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

Haha that was my thought too. She’s desperate to bag him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

OR he's married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a guy at a bar through a mutual guy friend. We met once again and he chatted me up and asked for my number. He asked me out twice and canceled both times for work reasons. Do I give him more time or tell him I’m not interested?

I am married to a very well compensated workaholic. Do NOT give this man another chance. Presumably, he is trying to impress you at the beginning and this is how he acts? It will only get worse. Trust me, when you have kids you do not want an unreliable partner that puts work above all else. Believe someone when they show you who they are.

The other option is, he’s not that into you and he cancels because he doesn’t care. Again, not worthy. Learn from my mistake.

[Anonymous]

I'm a doctor. Married to a doctor. I dated a few residents while I was in training - trust me, they will make time to see you if they are interested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a doctor. Married to a doctor. I dated a few residents while I was in training - trust me, they will make time to see you if they are interested.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

I’m not desperate for a doctor. I actually like him and the conversations we have had were actually really deep and thoughtful. I got to know in such a short while on a deeper level and I like him. I’ve dated men who made much less than doctors and I was just as happy. A man is not a plan for me. I’m looking for actual chemistry and deeper thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much do you like him after your first casual hang outs? My instinct would be to give him another chance if he wants one. I know doctors don’t have much flexibility with schedules and maybe he really did get stuck twice. Hard to know if he is stringing you along or flaky or just has bad luck, maybe run it by your mutual friend to get a feel on it.

I like him. We had a couple of casual hangouts and talk a lot through phone.

We met for ice cream last night after he got off work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make sure he's actually a resident and not someone with a family he's lying to.

We met through a mutual friend. He is 100% single and doesn’t have a family.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t. You’re only teaching him your value if you consent to a date now. As Dubya once said, “fool me once…” lol

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

I’m not desperate for a doctor. I actually like him and the conversations we have had were actually really deep and thoughtful. I got to know in such a short while on a deeper level and I like him. I’ve dated men who made much less than doctors and I was just as happy. A man is not a plan for me. I’m looking for actual chemistry and deeper thoughts.

then he is not for you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

I’m not desperate for a doctor. I actually like him and the conversations we have had were actually really deep and thoughtful. I got to know in such a short while on a deeper level and I like him. I’ve dated men who made much less than doctors and I was just as happy. A man is not a plan for me. I’m looking for actual chemistry and deeper thoughts.

Mmmm Hmmmm.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

I’m not desperate for a doctor. I actually like him and the conversations we have had were actually really deep and thoughtful. I got to know in such a short while on a deeper level and I like him. I’ve dated men who made much less than doctors and I was just as happy. A man is not a plan for me. I’m looking for actual chemistry and deeper thoughts.

That’s not easy to find. I’d give him another chance.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Once yes, twice no. He sounds flaky or maybe he found someone else. Also what does he do that he works nights and weekends so much?

He’s a resident doctor and crap got the fab so he had to stay until all patients were seen.

You should have said that in the OP. Residents don’t have as much control of their schedules as attendings and are also the ones who end up with the grunt work. If you do end up dating then you’ll have more of this in your future.

His residency ends in less than month so no I won’t.

Bet you won’t. You want that future doctor.

Sink those claws.

Haha that was my thought too. She’s desperate to bag him.

+ 10000000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one can decide this but you.
At best, he has a busy job and this is what dating him will look like. You'll always fall second to his job.
At worst, he has other women he's seeing or he's not really interested in you.

Personally, I was never interested in someone who had a career that would be first in their lives.

Wow that's good, and you are rare, as 99.99% of women prefer a man to be a money earning machine, and any man who doesn't stay career minded is considered a lazy bum and bad catch.