How often do your non driving teens hang out with friends?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is somewhat extraverted at school - nice, has lots of friends, both boys and girls text him. So I know he's liked.

His friends make almost no plans outside of school. It's maddening. I keep pushing him to make plans and we try, but it often falls flat and then teaches him not to make the effort. He does online game with his friends for a bit every day in the summer.

OP here. My older son is definitely well liked and texts with friends all day. They just seem to be really bad planners. He has a lot of friends at school from sports and clubs in addition to his friend group and they just don’t seem to make plans well. For big school events, they do make plans (with help of some moms) to take photos, dinner, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:We live off of two busy streets so kids can’t walk or bike to friends. My two teen boys can’t or don’t seem to make plans with friends. Even when they try, it often falls through. People are out of town, busy, don’t have a ride, etc. My friends with boys seem better at making plans.

A boy in high school without a car doesn't grow up as well.

A car is a necessity for a boy to have much of a social life, especially a dating life, and mature properly.

Girls can get by without one for the most part because all the boys with vehicles will gladly take them places.

My kid will be more than halfway through high school before he is eligible for a license.

Many are sophomores when they start driving, as 16 is the usual beginning driver age. Sometimes as freshman if they get a hardship license, which is not hard to do if both parents work and they live a few miles from school, but it's more limited to just for driving to school and back, no cruising.

Hardship licenses and licenses at 16 are not options in DC, MD, or VA.

What do you mean? At least in VA they can have their license at 16 and 3 months.

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Anonymous wrote:Every single day for my DS. There are a bunch of guys - around 25-30 of them from various schools, and they keep doing a bunch of stuff - eating out, playing basketball, pool, Top Golf, indoor rock climbing, cycling, movies, hanging in someone's basement, going shopping, video gaming, going for day trips etc. The driving teens pick up each other or some parents will pick up and drop off. Not all kids meet each other every day...but you will at least see 5-6 of them together. Boys seem to be ok with not knowing each other very well as long as they are doing some kind of activity. Only two boys are dating.

My DD has dedicated but small group of friends. Generally hangs out with the same group.

For both kids, DH or I are always available to drop and pick up.

This is my 16yo son too. It is non-stop. His group is smaller (10-12 boys), but it is always a different combination of kids hanging out each day. A lot different from my daughters that had 2 or 3 girls they were with all the time.

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Boys especially if they don't have a car available to them, will lose friends if they are constantly having to mooch rides from friends.