Do you agree with this viewpoint from a teacher?

[Anonymous]

Definitely true for me -- DD looks like me, and even makes some of the same style choices (chosen hair length and style, similar glasses).

I also think she resembles her dad, and they have many similar mannerisms. But he's very reserved in school settings and I'd be a little surprised if that comes through to others.

[Anonymous]

DD spent a week with a second cousin who she has only met a few times but I knew well in my youth. Cousin said DD a was exactly like me. We had the same laugh, same mannersisms, same look. She said it was like spending the week with the person I was 30 years ago. So I do think teachers can spot all this.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s probably accurate. Was simultaneously horrified and pleased to watch a video of myself and see my mother’s gestures.

Everyone knows who my kid belongs to the second they see them, or that I’m their parent immediately. There is some resemblance, but also we laughed the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD spent a week with a second cousin who she has only met a few times but I knew well in my youth. Cousin said DD a was exactly like me. We had the same laugh, same mannersisms, same look. She said it was like spending the week with the person I was 30 years ago. So I do think teachers can spot all this.

Oh, that’s beautiful!

[Anonymous]

I’m a teacher and while that seems a bit far fetched, when I do meet my students’ parents, I am rarely surprised. The expression that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree is remarkably accurate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and while that seems a bit far fetched, when I do meet my students’ parents, I am rarely surprised. The expression that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree is remarkably accurate.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and while that seems a bit far fetched, when I do meet my students’ parents, I am rarely surprised. The expression that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree is remarkably accurate.

I’m really curious, when you say parents, do you mean you meet both parents and can “match” them to a student? Or are you claiming you can do that only on the basis of one parent? I could find the first far more believable than the second. I’m one of the first posters who was doubting OP’s claim. One of my kids looks nothing like me and is also very different in terms of academic interests and social energy if you will - an introvert with a STEM career (me) vs social extrovert who seems to be leaning towards liberal arts (DD). I guess we could have similar mannerisms but that doesn’t jump out at me. So I would find it hard to imagine that someone could match up me to her (the other DD is a mini-me so there I have no doubt whatsoever).

[Anonymous]

It's not that deep. Just small talk about his party trick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am always recognized at Back to School Night.

"Oh, you're Larla's mom, right?"

Perhaps it depends on the family, but for us, this teacher's comment is spot on.

Same.

Two girls 6 years apart. They look the same but different ages. They act the same. They are both perfectionists. They are both quiet. They are both perfectly mannered. They very much reflect their perfectionist parents. (Don't worry - they both have hidden crippling anxiety - also inherited from their parents). I think we can be spotted a mile away.

[Anonymous]

I believe it.

[Anonymous]

I don't think Im anything like my parents now. Maybe this was true in MS. Now? Yeah, my immigrant parents have thick accents and are extremely conservative uneducated misogynistic Trump supporters - just to be clear they are white. I ended up getting a PhD. Staying my healthy weight, and have become quite the feminist. We're literally nothing alike.

Now it would be true if my girls ended up dropping out of school, getting pregnant, and siding with the misogynistic Trump agenda. It's really unlikely at this point though.

[Anonymous]

I have seen this in several kids that had no contact with their fathers until much later in life. These were long term foster kids and upon finally meeting the fathers it was clear that these kids had inherited many of the same mannerisms, temperament & even speech patterns.
Genetics are far stronger than you would think.

[Anonymous]

He sounds racist.

[Anonymous]

Somewhat agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a teacher and while that seems a bit far fetched, when I do meet my students’ parents, I am rarely surprised. The expression that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree is remarkably accurate.

I’m really curious, when you say parents, do you mean you meet both parents and can “match” them to a student? Or are you claiming you can do that only on the basis of one parent? I could find the first far more believable than the second. I’m one of the first posters who was doubting OP’s claim. One of my kids looks nothing like me and is also very different in terms of academic interests and social energy if you will - an introvert with a STEM career (me) vs social extrovert who seems to be leaning towards liberal arts (DD). I guess we could have similar mannerisms but that doesn’t jump out at me. So I would find it hard to imagine that someone could match up me to her (the other DD is a mini-me so there I have no doubt whatsoever).

I am not going to speak for everyone (not a teacher) but put it this way, liberal progressives tend to have liberal progressive looking kids, conservatives tend to have conservative looking kids, parents who clearly work out/were athletes tend to have athletic kids (and these days they dress appropriately for a sporty oriented lifestyle). It's really not surprising. Then overlay it with mannerism and body language and sentiments kids pick up from their parents. Then overlay it with hereditary features. I live in a neighborhood where I see this all the time among the kids and their parents. The lacrosse playing kids all have the exact same fathers, to use as one extreme, and the kids with dyed hair and unique haircuts and certain fashion preferences have parents who tend to have unique haircuts, certain fashion preferences even some visible tattoos.