Coworker Gave My Personal Cell to Contractor

[Anonymous]

You lost me at "have the clout to get her fired" and "teach her a life lesson." I was on your side before those lines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

You sound like a jerk. Ignored your wife's birthday? Took calls at church? Missed your kids at bats? Yeah right. You didn't even answer the calls. If your kid was at bat you should have let the phone ring without checking the caller ID. Don't know why you would have your phone on at Church. You're over exaggerating

You sound really dumb.

Would you call your coworker 14 times on a Saturday to ask about the status of a bid? No, right?

The reason you answer no is that you understand people have lives; they have kids, kids' sports, church, elderly parents to check in on, milestone events like birthdays, weddings and funerals, etc., and you understand it is rude interrupt those. Right? Especially non Emegency admin stuff like "Did the status of the RFP we filed change in the last 16 hours?

Or were you arguing that it's OK to have a contractor haunt your weekend because they are so crappy that they live and die by every job? Then why would you keep them? Bad contractors are like being handede a toddler that juat crapped his pants with no diaper. You have to clean up everything and you don't get paid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

You sound like a jerk. Ignored your wife's birthday? Took calls at church? Missed your kids at bats? Yeah right. You didn't even answer the calls. If your kid was at bat you should have let the phone ring without checking the caller ID. Don't know why you would have your phone on at Church. You're over exaggerating

You sound really dumb.

Would you call your coworker 14 times on a Saturday to ask about the status of a bid? No, right?

The reason you answer no is that you understand people have lives; they have kids, kids' sports, church, elderly parents to check in on, milestone events like birthdays, weddings and funerals, etc., and you understand it is rude interrupt those. Right? Especially non Emegency admin stuff like "Did the status of the RFP we filed change in the last 16 hours?

Or were you arguing that it's OK to have a contractor haunt your weekend because they are so crappy that they live and die by every job? Then why would you keep them? Bad contractors are like being handede a toddler that juat crapped his pants with no diaper. You have to clean up everything and you don't get paid.

DP here. Stop it. You're digging yourself deeper, OP. You come across as completely unhinged. The contractor harassed you. That's not your coworker's fault. She made the mistake of giving out your phone number. That's not a fireable offense.

You really need to get some perspective and think about how your anger and lack of discernment impacts those around you.

[Anonymous]

Are you government. If so, it would make sense to educate her on the perils of giving out personally identifiable information and the pitfalls of violating the procurement integrity act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should have answered the call the first time and shut it down. Then contractor would not have continued to call all weekend.

Exactly. Cool off. You've never had a call on the weekend before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk with your boss and let him/her know it's inappropriate for a co-worker to give out your personal cell number to a contractor.

A contractor shouldn't be allowed to contact you directly on your personal device to promote their bid. That seems like a problem if other contractors don't also have the same opportunity.

I wouldn't go into the "not a team player" complaint or how it cut into your weekend.

+1000

30 years old is waaaaay old enough to know this can cost you the contract if the losing bidder asks for review. I've seen 40M contracts pulled back for less.

I'd fire her for incompetence and lack of cohesion. She is a tattle tale in the wrong and she'll never play nice. Get rid of her,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should have answered the call the first time and shut it down. Then contractor would not have continued to call all weekend.

Exactly. Cool off. You've never had a call on the weekend before?

Yes, I've had the once every 4 months emergency call that lasted 4 minutes. No, I have not had a coworker call me 14 times in one day and text me all weekend. If you cant see the difference, that is on you.

And the poster above talking about review is spot on. If one bidder is getting access the others aren't, you are screwed. Start over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not get the dumb witch fired, but I would get her formally reprimanded and a letter put in her permanent file.

Do people really put "letters" in permanent files?

[Anonymous]

She did not react correctly when she complained that you weren’t a team player. And she should not have given out your personal cell number to anyone. That’s just basic common sense.

She sounds like she has bad judgment and also lacks humility. It’s up to you if you want to try to work with her to improve, if she brings other good things to the table. But I’d keep an eye on her for tattling that you’re “not a team player.”

[Anonymous]

You sound unhinged. That said -

Tell the coworker they shouldn't have given out your personal information and that they are not to do that again.

Tell the contractor not to call you outside of business hours unless it's an emergency, and certainly not repeatedly - that they should leave a message and/or send an email/text and that you will get back to them during business hours.

Accept that if you are in a role that is senior enough that you can get a coworker fired for stupid behavior, then you are senior enough that people (not this contractor, but potentially others) may need to reach you outside of business hours. This should not get you personally offended.

Tell your boss that you're working with the various people to resolve the issue and come up with a process for communications (right time, right channel) going forward. Spare your boss the details and petty grievances.

And, importantly, learn to use the "do not disturb" function on your phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I would not get the dumb witch fired, but I would get her formally reprimanded and a letter put in her permanent file.

Do people really put "letters" in permanent files?

Yeah, they do.

[Anonymous]

Were you in need of a contractor? If so, how did your co-worker know? And did the contractor bid on a project that they discussed with you or visited your house? Trying to figure out why the coworker would provide your information randomly to a contractor — since you left out that part of the story. But firing someone and taking away their livelihood over this minuscule issue is pretty messed up. I can’t imagine thinking like that — you don’t sound like a decent human being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you would try to get her fired over this maybe you aren’t a team player?

Oh, you work 7 days a week? Take calls during church? Ignore your wife's birthday and you son's at bats? You sound like a great husband and father.

You sound like a jerk. Ignored your wife's birthday? Took calls at church? Missed your kids at bats? Yeah right. You didn't even answer the calls. If your kid was at bat you should have let the phone ring without checking the caller ID. Don't know why you would have your phone on at Church. You're over exaggerating

You sound really dumb.

Would you call your coworker 14 times on a Saturday to ask about the status of a bid? No, right?

The reason you answer no is that you understand people have lives; they have kids, kids' sports, church, elderly parents to check in on, milestone events like birthdays, weddings and funerals, etc., and you understand it is rude interrupt those. Right? Especially non Emegency admin stuff like "Did the status of the RFP we filed change in the last 16 hours?

Or were you arguing that it's OK to have a contractor haunt your weekend because they are so crappy that they live and die by every job? Then why would you keep them? Bad contractors are like being handede a toddler that juat crapped his pants with no diaper. You have to clean up everything and you don't get paid.

Yeah. Of course it's rude. Still don't get why it caused you to ignore your wife's birthday and miss your kid's at bat. Or why your phone was making noise at church. But we aren't a family glued to our phones who need to look at it every time it buzzes so, probably wouldn't even have noticed most of those calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Were you in need of a contractor? If so, how did your co-worker know? And did the contractor bid on a project that they discussed with you or visited your house? Trying to figure out why the coworker would provide your information randomly to a contractor — since you left out that part of the story. But firing someone and taking away their livelihood over this minuscule issue is pretty messed up. I can’t imagine thinking like that — you don’t sound like a decent human being.

That's because OP is absolutely unhinged. But this is what happens when you're obsessed with electronics. He needs to put his phone away, especially if he doesn't work on weekends. Allowing these phone calls that he wasn't picking up to disrupt his wife's birthday is his own fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Talk with your boss and let him/her know it's inappropriate for a co-worker to give out your personal cell number to a contractor.

A contractor shouldn't be allowed to contact you directly on your personal device to promote their bid. That seems like a problem if other contractors don't also have the same opportunity.

I wouldn't go into the "not a team player" complaint or how it cut into your weekend.

I'd expect my manager to give her hell. Any place I've ever worked this would have been considered a serious issue. I agree that op needs to drop the complaints about his weekend being interrupted but this was very inappropriate. The coworker's actions after are even worse. I would talk to my manager and expect them to reprimand her. She doesn't get to threaten op for not going along with this inappropriate situation she created.