Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My kid who is studious and conscientious really dislikes group projects. He usually ends up doing most of the project. He especially despises when the teacher groups him with 1-2 students who do nothing to very little instead of having the students who are hard working grouped together.
Teachers almost always tell the class they can see who is doing the work and who isn't and they are going to grade accordingly. It never seems to happen. If anyone in my son's group ever complains to the teacher the teacher says some BS about in the real world you have to learn to work together so they have to deal with it. At times my son has lost points because he asked the teacher what to do if someone says they are going to turn in their part but then never does after the group members beg the student to complete the work.
How do I know the slacker kids get the grade as the student who has put in all the hours? I have another child who is the slacker. He is a bright but does the minimal. He often seem to find a group to join with a Type A girl. From the get go he goes up and tells her he is willing to relinquish all control to her and she can do the whole thing and he will stay out of her way. He is good at presenting so he says he will present whatever she writes up for him if there is a presentation.
Slacker son also chooses a student whose parents with advanced degrees do the work for the student so they get the best grade. Those parents really like my slacker kid because he is willing to go along with not doing anything but is smart enough to be able to answer questions if asked and not tell anyone the parents are really doing the work. So he ends up getting A's for doing absolutely nothing.
Your slacker son is going to be a CEO some day. I am one of those Type A girls, still at the bottom of the hierarchy. It's actually amazing how people have this kind of intuition so young.
I totally understand. I wrote the previous post about my sons. I was a quiet, studious kid who loved to read. I realized kids were cheating off me, "borrowing" my homework if I set it down, didn't mind putting in extra time to do extra work in projects, etc. Definitely, life does not reward girls like us in the professional world. I like my job and it pays decently but I will never be in a leadership role, which is fine with me.
It has been fascinating to see the other side. Younger son puts in effort to figure out all the short cuts (many I don't approve of) , very social, and surprisingly to me gets all A's. I had no idea so many students were gaining an advantage by pooling resources. For example, in his group of friends whoever has the class first period then shares test questions with students in later periods and the ones with older siblings, friends, cousins share previous tests and assignments. They tell each other what classes not to take or what teachers to avoid by picking an elective that conflicts with the "hard grader" teacher then they change electives later on, or drop it, or take it during summer school online but don't report it until after classes start and they get their schedule. They figure out who to strategically pick to work with during group projects or if assigned figure out quickly if they can get away with not doing work. I really don't understand how teachers aren't figuring out and putting a stop to some of these strategies.