Are we allowed to make networking introductions for our adult kids or is that considered gross now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s basically a requirement in this economy. Anyone saying differently doesn’t have a kid trying to get a job or internship. Employers are getting hundreds of applicants for jobs.

+1

I rejected 10 candidates from Ivies for a finance internship position, and hired my neighbor’s kid from JMU five years ago. This year my neighbor returned the favor by hiring my DS for a CS job at his company in his awful economy.

The person we hired because he was the child of a partner's friend has been a total disaster and money loser, but is still being protected by that partner.

I make introductions for friends and families. I only recommend and endorse someone, including relatives, if I believe they can handle the job. I won’t risk my reputation and relationships by pushing someone unqualified.

On the flip side, when someone tells me they have a great candidate that I should speak with and that person is a dud, I will ignore future requests.

Not if that person has "connections" that can help you in the future.

In this terrible economy, I am cashing in all of my favours from friends and colleagues, so that my adult children can get jobs. I feel really good about it.

OP’s situation seems totally fine but this little sub-thread is gross.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can give your kid your friend's email, but you can't reach out directly.

This is stupid advice.

Reach out to your friend or network with a brief introduction and context of your request. It’s an opportunity to catch up with your friend. Ask if it’s okay to introduce your kid. If agreeable, have your kid follow up.

+1.

+2 Super awkward to get a cold call from an acquaintance's kid with no heads up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s basically a requirement in this economy. Anyone saying differently doesn’t have a kid trying to get a job or internship. Employers are getting hundreds of applicants for jobs.

+1

I rejected 10 candidates from Ivies for a finance internship position, and hired my neighbor’s kid from JMU five years ago. This year my neighbor returned the favor by hiring my DS for a CS job at his company in his awful economy.

The person we hired because he was the child of a partner's friend has been a total disaster and money loser, but is still being protected by that partner.

I make introductions for friends and families. I only recommend and endorse someone, including relatives, if I believe they can handle the job. I won’t risk my reputation and relationships by pushing someone unqualified.

On the flip side, when someone tells me they have a great candidate that I should speak with and that person is a dud, I will ignore future requests.

Not if that person has "connections" that can help you in the future.

In this terrible economy, I am cashing in all of my favours from friends and colleagues, so that my adult children can get jobs. I feel really good about it.

OP’s situation seems totally fine but this little sub-thread is gross.

It is not gross in today economy.

[Anonymous]

Of course it is ok. How do you think rich people have done it for generations? Good old boys network.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can give your kid your friend's email, but you can't reach out directly.

This is stupid advice.

Reach out to your friend or network with a brief introduction and context of your request. It’s an opportunity to catch up with your friend. Ask if it’s okay to introduce your kid. If agreeable, have your kid follow up.

Yes, the parent reaches out and the bolded. I don't give out contact information without permission, even to my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can give your kid your friend's email, but you can't reach out directly.

This is stupid advice.

Reach out to your friend or network with a brief introduction and context of your request. It’s an opportunity to catch up with your friend. Ask if it’s okay to introduce your kid. If agreeable, have your kid follow up.

This.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine, as long as everyone's honest and if the young adult doesn't pass muster they're not hired.

Like a PP said, I would only introduce my kid if I thought they could do the job. Sadly, one of my children has severe ADHD and mild autism. I cannot, in good conscience, recommend him right now, because he's the type that can only do a good job if they're passionate about the topic, and I have no contacts in his chosen field.
This makes for an unfair situation, because my other kid is highly-functional and can (and has) done a great job wherever she's been planted.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Use connections. This is how the real world works.