Would you support your adult children for doing this?

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it definitely do it

[Anonymous]

If we could afford it, and my DH and son were super excited, I would support it. YOLO.

[Anonymous]

OP - you need to elaborate more on what the source of your nervousness is. It's more than just the $240K.

[Anonymous]

can he work at all while doing this? Can you give it one year and re-evaluate before you commit to 3 years....and $240,000?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve never heard of a professional player who has to pay all their expenses.

Golf and tennis.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn’t. I can’t fathom my kid asking to be a freeloader for 3 years without it providing and level of furthering an independent lifestyle at the end. I don’t see how this is any different than backpacking the world because you want to experience different cultures or being a beach bum because you’ve got dreams of being a professional surfer.

You’ve said it yourself - he doesn’t have a chance to be a pro, so he’s essentially asking you to let him avoid becoming an adult for 3 years so he can do his hobby.

Nope. I’m not doing it. I don’t raise spoiled, entitled, failure to launch kids.

[Anonymous]

He has lived a very very privileged life to even be asking for this. You already have him on the slippery slope of truly spoiled and entitled. What kind of man do you want him to be?

[Anonymous]

Some of you guys really resent and hate your kids.

[Anonymous]

No, I probably wouldn't. $80k is as much as I make in a year so it's not a real decision for me, but even if it were $20k I don't think I would.

If he had a college scholarship for that sport then I'd probably say the money in his college fund was his to spend on this as he pleased, but if the college savings were already wiped out then that's the end of the financial support.

That said, if money were no object then sure.

I honestly can't imagine a 22 year old asking mom and dad to fund (essentially) 3 more years of college without any additional degrees. That feels really entitled to even be asking, but maybe it's just a different world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn’t. I can’t fathom my kid asking to be a freeloader for 3 years without it providing and level of furthering an independent lifestyle at the end. I don’t see how this is any different than backpacking the world because you want to experience different cultures or being a beach bum because you’ve got dreams of being a professional surfer.

You’ve said it yourself - he doesn’t have a chance to be a pro, so he’s essentially asking you to let him avoid becoming an adult for 3 years so he can do his hobby.

Nope. I’m not doing it. I don’t raise spoiled, entitled, failure to launch kids.

The three years he plays on tour will make him a better person, exponentially growth in both EQ and networking. He will be very successful in the future in whatever he decides to do. The majority of golfers on the low level professional tour are supported by their parents, and they are neither spoiled nor entitled.

[Anonymous]

Set aside $500K - $250K for 3 years of this sport thing, $250K (or less) for grad school. If the money isn't a concern, why not? There are plenty of rich kids like this in bschool and many of them go on to be perfectly functioning successful adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of you guys really resent and hate your kids.

This ‘kid’ is asking his parents to support his hobby from ages 22-25. At what point does this ‘kid’ become a man?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn’t. I can’t fathom my kid asking to be a freeloader for 3 years without it providing and level of furthering an independent lifestyle at the end. I don’t see how this is any different than backpacking the world because you want to experience different cultures or being a beach bum because you’ve got dreams of being a professional surfer.

You’ve said it yourself - he doesn’t have a chance to be a pro, so he’s essentially asking you to let him avoid becoming an adult for 3 years so he can do his hobby.

Nope. I’m not doing it. I don’t raise spoiled, entitled, failure to launch kids.

The three years he plays on tour will make him a better person, exponentially growth in both EQ and networking. He will be very successful in the future in whatever he decides to do. The majority of golfers on the low level professional tour are supported by their parents, and they are neither spoiled nor entitled.

If they haven’t instilled those attributes in him by 22, then he’s never going to get them. And there’s NOTHING to indicate playing on a semi-pro circuit will instill them. Making to your tee time on Wednesday morning on time equates to greater EQ? ‘Surviving’ week after week of not making the leaderboard provides networking opportunities? How? Watching others play Friday - Sunday from the clubhouse?

If you think paying $240k to support your 22-26 year old son’s hobby doesn’t indicate an obscene level of entitlement, you are not living in the real world.

[Anonymous]

If you can afford it .. Why not?

[Anonymous]

It’s not entitlement. The kid finished college and competed at D1 level. He obviously worked hard. If money is not an issue and this is your only child then is no way you wouldn’t regret not funding this in 25 years. He can work when he finishes this tour. Life is short. Please do it.