Rude comments about my late term miscarriage

[Anonymous]

OP - I lost my first pregnancy at 21 weeks - thankfully I did not receive any such comments b/c I don't think I would ahve been able to tolerate them. I was 36 when DS was born and now 38 and expecting twins. We did need assistant from RE for all three pregnancies.

Please take care of yourself - there is a lot of support online and in person if you need it for pregnancy loss. With time things do get better and you will certainly realize, if you don'tt already that this womam's comments were inexcusable.

Best wishes for a happy and healthy future.

[zumbamama]

Those words were totally unnecessary and unhealthy for any pregnant woman to hear...don't listen to her...she sounds nuts!

[Anonymous]

Your friend is ignorant. After delivering very preterm and losing my baby, I joined an informal support group of women who had miscarried, lost babies at birth, had them very prematurely and lost them, or had still births.

Every one women in the group except me and one other has gone on to have another healthy baby. And the only reason that I haven't is that I haven't tried.

[Anonymous]

For what it's worth, I had my 1st baby at age 37 & the 2nd one at age 39. Both are well (4 & 6 now).

A good friend tried for 14 years before giving birth to a beautiful, healthy boy.

Sometimes people don't know what to say and go on to say hurtful things.

I am truly sorry for your loss. Don't let ugly people discourage you.

[Anonymous]

I know I'm joining the chorus here, but count me as one more person out here in DCUM-land who is very sorry about your loss, and feels your pain. I had a few miscarriages in my 30's and finally had two children in my 40's. Perhaps you can find comfort in knowing there are so many of us out here who understand what you are going through, and I hope knowing this helps you ignore that ignorant know-it-all who hurt you with her comments.