Custody Order and Camp Registration Conflict

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The mom has the entire summer with the children. She is choosing an optional camp now

She obviously needs the childcare. It is very common for kids to be signed up most weeks summer. And yes the spots fill up months out in advance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mom has the entire summer with the children. She is choosing an optional camp now

She obviously needs the childcare. It is very common for kids to be signed up most weeks summer. And yes the spots fill up months out in advance

great addition to the conversation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Document it all. He can either choose early or choose alternate dates. If he ends up choosing dates right at the same time as camp, file for modification to change his deadline so no future problems occur.

Document what! He’s following the court order. Offer him something like more time.

If she's informing him ahead of time and he's choosing the exact weeks the camp is on out of pettiness, he's taking advantage of the order and not coparenting in good faith. So then she can take this information, along with the deadlines for camps and modify the order to move the deadline up to prevent this from happening again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Register them for camp. Then tell him to pick any other 2 weeks. Realistically what is he going to do about it take you back to court? Not likely.

There seems to be a weird assumption on this thread that camp is something that lasts a week. OP is probably a working parent, most single moms are. She probably needs care every week except the ones her ex has.

This is what I gleaned. This issue is OP doesn’t want to pay for camp when her ex has the kids, which makes sense. But the child still needs camp for the other weeks so she has to sign up now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The mom has the entire summer with the children. She is choosing an optional camp now

She obviously needs the childcare. It is very common for kids to be signed up most weeks summer. And yes the spots fill up months out in advance

Simple solution. Let dad have more time with the kids.

[Anonymous]

agree
give something to get something

he’ll respond

[Anonymous]

But OP already dropped a question and split See ? her deadline passed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But OP already dropped a question and split See ? her deadline passed

Its not about her deadline, its about the court order. Why does dad only get two weeks? Give him more time and maybe he'll be more cooperative if she lets him have more of a relationship.

[Anonymous]

OP is fine and gone thu

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But OP already dropped a question and split See ? her deadline passed

Its not about her deadline, its about the court order. Why does dad only get two weeks? Give him more time and maybe he'll be more cooperative if she lets him have more of a relationship.

OP didn't say that he only gets two weeks. We have no idea. Maybe those two weeks are the only weeks he gets all year. Maybe he has primary custody, and she gets the summer minus those two weeks. Maybe they do every other week, except for one two week period for each of them to allow for a longer vacation.

There seems to be an assumption from some posters that no matter the situation Dad is the victim. There's no evidence of that here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:But OP already dropped a question and split See ? her deadline passed

Its not about her deadline, its about the court order. Why does dad only get two weeks? Give him more time and maybe he'll be more cooperative if she lets him have more of a relationship.

OP didn't say that he only gets two weeks. We have no idea. Maybe those two weeks are the only weeks he gets all year. Maybe he has primary custody, and she gets the summer minus those two weeks. Maybe they do every other week, except for one two week period for each of them to allow for a longer vacation.

There seems to be an assumption from some posters that no matter the situation Dad is the victim. There's no evidence of that here.

This Is WAY past her deadline. Time much? You post said hardly anything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just let him know in writing that the week of camp your child will be unavailable but he can pick any other two weeks out of the rest of the summer? Seems very simple. Am I missing something?

Agree.

This is "best interest of the child".