Hitting the panic button- what to wear for first date at 47

[Anonymous]

Of the responses, I wonder how many were from women and how many from men. Most men - and I'm one - will not put much weight on your outfit. Sure, we'd notice if you're wearing an old t-shirt or a ball gown, but most stuff in-between that looks pretty much the same to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm that's a good point about the jewelry. So a dress feels overdone?

It’s cold. I would go business casual with a button undone depending on where you are headed.

Choose which button based on where you are headed?

Adjust which button during the date?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being feminine doesn't mean you are a trad wife. The fact that you immediately jump to extreme stereotypes tells me that you do not understand what a typical man is looking for on a first date.

At some 47, OP, I hope, is considering what she wants in a man, is looking for a man who likes her as-is, and is not trying to dress to please a stranger.

Make your own thread. OP is asking for advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmm that's a good point about the jewelry. So a dress feels overdone?

It’s cold. I would go business casual with a button undone depending on where you are headed.

Choose which button based on where you are headed?

Adjust which button during the date?

Yeah

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of the responses, I wonder how many were from women and how many from men. Most men - and I'm one - will not put much weight on your outfit. Sure, we'd notice if you're wearing an old t-shirt or a ball gown, but most stuff in-between that looks pretty much the same to us.

C’mon, you’d notice red leather and a whip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being feminine doesn't mean you are a trad wife. The fact that you immediately jump to extreme stereotypes tells me that you do not understand what a typical man is looking for on a first date.

At some 47, OP, I hope, is considering what she wants in a man, is looking for a man who likes her as-is, and is not trying to dress to please a stranger.

Make your own thread. OP is asking for advice.

She didn’t say she’s looking for advice on what a typical man is looking for. She asked for what might look good on her. There is a difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of the responses, I wonder how many were from women and how many from men. Most men - and I'm one - will not put much weight on your outfit. Sure, we'd notice if you're wearing an old t-shirt or a ball gown, but most stuff in-between that looks pretty much the same to us.

Guy here and I disagree. I’ll notice.

[Anonymous]

OP—dress in a way that emphasizes your positive body parts.

Don’t wear a dress that’s like a lumpy potato sack. Simple, fitted, feminine.

Style your hair (ideally down) and wear some makeup.

If you share your body type and date location, we can give more specific suggestions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wear a great outfit but DO NOT put pressure on two dates. You need to set up like 25 convenient first dates in a constant assembly line so they are all low risk and low investment. Don’t get to know them at all online, just do a coffee or a drink somewhere convenient.

I agree with this advice. First meetings- keep it short, in a coffee store, no fancy, long dinners on a first date. Just look nice and put together.

[Anonymous]

Great advice, thank you! Especially to not waste time texting and set up several dates in a row.

So here we go! I've got 4 set up in the next two weeks. I'm kind of excited, several of them I really enjoyed the conversation just in initial texting. All are for drinks, not dinner. First one is tomorrow.

I realized looking at my closet I have lots of dressier, work clothes and nice fitting casual, but need some sexier options.

What's my style? Not fussy. At 5'9", blond and having been jokingly called a valkyrie more than once in my life, I am definitely more comfortable with a sophisticated, sexy look than sweetly feminine. I do a lot of sleek pants and tops, or a long skirt with a tighter top. I do like an A line or wrap dress.

Here are the locations:
- #1- French restaurant/bar. Comfortably upscale. I'm wearing a silk, deep teal top and black fitted, straight leg pants and suede boots.
- #2 Trendy Thai restaurant/bar (this one may get bumped for snow)
- #3 Steak place
- #4 TBD

I would love any links you have to go-to favorites of yours, thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am completely clueless but for a casual look I think I would try a black v neck cashmere sweater with flare or boot cut jeans in a dark wash. And probably black boots with a stacked heel and almond or pointed toe. I would also wear some of my nicest jewelry but I wouldn't pile it all on.

But like I said, I am clueless!

Yep, this is all good.