Gift receipt/return/exchange etiquette

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can return or dispose of a gift however you want, discretely and after graciously receiving it.

You definitely can’t ask for a gift receipt. I mean maybe if it’s from immediate family and that works for your relationship.

Don’t tell. Don’t ask.

So you’d rather someone throw away/regift you gift instead of returning it and using the money for something they like?

If I receive a gift I don’t like/need/it’s a duplicate, I’d rather return it and get something else and consider it that the gift giver gave me that new gift I picked.

It’d be cumbersome and annoying to have to deal with a gift I don’t need. I’d see it as having been assigned a task.

A gift should be a pleasure not a burden on the recipient.

In all likelihood, if the giver had gotten a gift receipt, they would have included it with the gift already. You talk about burdens, but by asking for a reciept you would be making it a burden on them. How hard is it just to donate if you don't want it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a rich vs poor argument. Only well off people are going to talk about gift etiquette and how you just accept a gift and then give it away if you don’t like it.

People who are struggling financially are going to exchange an unneeded item for something that will get used. Sometimes that means they have to ask for a receipt, sometimes it doesn’t.

I don't know - I previously lived in a much poorer country than the US and you never return a gift or give it back. Gift receipts seem more like an American culture thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't try to return to Amazon. My SIL returned something I bought one of her kids. Something that was specifically on the wish list. I didn't realize for awhile then saw a credit in my account from that return. She returned it, I got the credit, and found out. She never mentioned it at all.

Maybe her kid got two of the same item.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you return a gift?

Would you ask for a gift receipt if the gift came without it?

Would you tell the gift giver you returned/exchanged their gift?

Yes.
Yes- depending on scope of item and the giver. Sad to say a close relative [GP] committed to helping furnish baby room. That future GP has mega funds and cheaped out on a major item.
Yes- depending on scope of item/s and giver. Even if you have a conversation about pattern of gifting, they might continue the nonsense. Such is is fate of an adult DC+spouse. Now their kid/s gifts.

I have a SIL/BIL that perpetually buy stuff for their many GC. Refuse suggestions. Big volume in count and $. 2 sets of other GP buy /gift as suggested. Childless adults are buying better /appreciated gifts for our GC than other GPs and same is true for those families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you return a gift?

Would you ask for a gift receipt if the gift came without it?

Would you tell the gift giver you returned/exchanged their gift?

Yes
No
No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't try to return to Amazon. My SIL returned something I bought one of her kids. Something that was specifically on the wish list. I didn't realize for awhile then saw a credit in my account from that return. She returned it, I got the credit, and found out. She never mentioned it at all.

Maybe her kid got two of the same item.

That's not how an Amazon wishlist works. It was kind of a weird gift, but it was on the list so I got it. But still, give it away or do something else. It's weird she returned it and never mentioned it.

[Anonymous]

For close family:

Yes
Yes
Yes

There would be no drama or issues with it. We don't get our feelings hurt over gifts. I've been asked for receipts in the past and have no problem with it.

For everyone else
Yes
No
No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you return a gift?

Would you ask for a gift receipt if the gift came without it?

Would you tell the gift giver you returned/exchanged their gift?

Yes, for a size change. Yes, if given a gift receipt—otherwise I may donate or regift

No, but I am the type of person who gives a gift receipt to people so they can return if they need/want to.

No, unless it was my mother

[Anonymous]

I regift/donate gifts from my mom/MIL a lot. They buy many nice things that we enjoy and use but then also buy many things that we don't need and would just add to the clutter in my house. So my DH and I immediately set aside the things we don't want to keep so the kids forget about them and we never mention what happens to mom/MIL. But I also try to make a point of telling mom/MIL how we like and use their gifts. I would never ask for a gift receipt and never tell that I've regifted some things.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would return a gift. No, I would never ask for a gift receipt. No I would not tell them that I returned the gift.

[Anonymous]

I just had a problem where the Amazon gift didn’t have the full gift receipt slips, apparently it was missing the one with the QR code and Amazon’s suggestion (after speaking with two associates) was to ask the giver for the order # to do a return.

[Anonymous]

Yes
No
Only if forced to (like they asked to see it or where it was, which would be rude of them.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just had a problem where the Amazon gift didn’t have the full gift receipt slips, apparently it was missing the one with the QR code and Amazon’s suggestion (after speaking with two associates) was to ask the giver for the order # to do a return.

Amazon just let us do a return with the giver’s name and address. Based on just that (and our name and shipping address and the specific item) they located the order and allowed the return without contacting the giver.

[Anonymous]

Do anything you like with any gift I give you! I promise I won’t be following up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do always try to provide a gift receipt.. Don't like it? Can't use it? Please get something you will use! That is my goal.

Same here! I don't want to spend money on a gift that someone just tosses into the closet. I do provide a gift receipt for that reason. Wouldn't bother me at all if someone returns a gift I give.

Yeah or it wasn’t right/broken/wrong size. I have returned a few things on my wishlist. I really wanted them but then they weren’t the same as they’d appeared online. One was very poorly sewn.