How is it possible a 43yo was born in the 1950s?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No wonder your SIL hates you.

If SIL hates OP, why is she calling her? Want information? Call your brother.

Probably because every other year OP did and now there's a change of plans and instead of communicating that like a normal person she tried to be as rude as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No wonder your SIL hates you.

If SIL hates OP, why is she calling her? Want information? Call your brother.

Probably because every other year OP did and now there's a change of plans and instead of communicating that like a normal person she tried to be as rude as possible.

Or sometimes inlaws use an excuse to call you, when really they just want to chat. OP is a total brat. It could have been handled better, while still not taking on the gift responsibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

NP and DH and I are a team in that we divide and conquer. We know and trust that each other is taking care of gifts and cards and logistics for each of our side of the family. We only need to check in for dates of visits and travel. DH loves our nieces and nephew on my side of the family, but I don’t think he particularly cares that I sent them a holiday Barbie or whatever.

+1 I'd like to know who's badgering my husband for not knowing what I sent my sister's kids - or my parents! - for Hanukkah. Anyone? Anyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What were her exact words? Do keep in mind that you is plural.

My phone number is not plural and she called me, not my husband. I’m not a member of the royal family, so me really does mean just me when you’re calling my phone.

House phone line is down?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And we wonder why the divorce rate is so high. This is one of the (many) reasons. Couples aren't part of a team anymore. My DH and I go over all presents we are sending family.

OP was hostile and posted here to get DCUM strokes for being an a**.

Men have gone generations married without knowing what their own children were getting for Christmas. Not knowing what DH is getting his mom won’t cause a divorce

IT'S THE RUDE PHRASING. Not the fact she doesn't know. I don't know what my MIL gets for Christmas either, but I would never respond to someone in such a rude way.

99% of arguments could be avoided if people communicated better: not change their actions. Just their words.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SIL just called me and asked me what I got for her mother—my MIL—for Christmas.

I said, “I have no idea what Jake got your mom. You should call him.” And she got huffy with me. Like…call your brother! Why would you assume I got her something? Why would I do that? I met her exactly seven years ago. Why would I be in charge of that?

I would offer you a match to light this fire but I am pretty sure you have a flamethrower already to go.

[Anonymous]

Why is this a post? She asked what you bought, you explained DH does the gift buying for MIL, she got huffy and presumably you ignored it?

I am one that felt DH should do the same, but you have to understand that not everyone’s on the same page. They can’t b make you responsible for gifts and you can’t change their thought process.

[Anonymous]

OP is this your very first holiday together? Otherwise what did you do about this last year?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No wonder your SIL hates you.

If SIL hates OP, why is she calling her? Want information? Call your brother.

Probably because every other year OP did and now there's a change of plans and instead of communicating that like a normal person she tried to be as rude as possible.

OP here. Nope. I have always handled gifts and logistics for my family, and DH does for his.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No wonder your SIL hates you.

If SIL hates OP, why is she calling her? Want information? Call your brother.

Probably because every other year OP did and now there's a change of plans and instead of communicating that like a normal person she tried to be as rude as possible.

Or sometimes inlaws use an excuse to call you, when really they just want to chat. OP is a total brat. It could have been handled better, while still not taking on the gift responsibility.

OP here. SIL has never once called me to chat, which is fine. She only has ever called when she wants or needs something, and 90% of the time I either get DH and hand him the phone, or answer her career-related question as we are in related fields.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What were her exact words? Do keep in mind that you is plural.

My phone number is not plural and she called me, not my husband. I’m not a member of the royal family, so me really does mean just me when you’re calling my phone.

House phone line is down?

It is 2024 and we don’t have a landline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No wonder your SIL hates you.

If SIL hates OP, why is she calling her? Want information? Call your brother.

Probably because every other year OP did and now there's a change of plans and instead of communicating that like a normal person she tried to be as rude as possible.

OP here. Nope. I have always handled gifts and logistics for my family, and DH does for his.

And SIL calls every year to ask and this year you finally lost it or what? Why did you freak out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is this your very first holiday together? Otherwise what did you do about this last year?

OP here. I don’t know why SIL chose this year to make this assumption; we’ve never had any discussion of gifts before. So this came out of the blue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is this your very first holiday together? Otherwise what did you do about this last year?

OP here. I don’t know why SIL chose this year to make this assumption; we’ve never had any discussion of gifts before. So this came out of the blue.

So, you are the AH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is this your very first holiday together? Otherwise what did you do about this last year?

OP here. I don’t know why SIL chose this year to make this assumption; we’ve never had any discussion of gifts before. So this came out of the blue.

So, you are the AH.

OK? I think assuming a woman is going to handle something for someone else’s mother simply because she has a vagina is pretty rude, but OK.