Daycare in DC that will take 13-year-old during holiday break?

[Anonymous]

Leave him at home with a security camera system.

[Anonymous]

Do you have a Boys and Girls Club nearby? I have friends that have older kids that go there during school breaks.

[Anonymous]

College student home on break? Or even a responsible high school student? Dpr camps are probably full unfortunately. I imagine with eloping you can't trust him to stay at the library or something.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the HoopEd suggestion all!

[Anonymous]

No one wants this kid at winter break camp. That doesn’t sound fair to the other kids.

[Anonymous]

You may want to put this in the special needs forums. It's not typical fid a 13 year old to need care. Hiding and eloping need a place that can meet his needs. It's really bit fair to do that to workers at a regular daycare.

[Anonymous]

Hire a college kid home on winter break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hire a college kid home on winter break.

Terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

Did you sign up for Hoop Eds?
I would reach out to the guidance counselor at his school ask for resources or programs they can suggest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You may want to put this in the special needs forums. It's not typical fid a 13 year old to need care. Hiding and eloping need a place that can meet his needs. It's really bit fair to do that to workers at a regular daycare.

+1
Kids become paid babysitters of other kids at 13. And ADHD does not cause issues of eloping.

There’s something else going on here, whether it’s the OP just not wanting to discuss her kid’s diagnosis, or her downplaying some sort of criminality/delinquency (which don’t get me wrong, if that’s the case—more power to you for actually trying to make sure your kid is being supervised), or there’s some sort of other mental health issue going on that’s not being addressed.

Regardless I’m seeing 🚩 🚩 🚩

And I’m trying to be snarky =/

[Anonymous]

I agree eloping and hiding isn’t an ADHD thing and will be a REAL problem at a new unknown care place with adults who know nothing about him. Unless it is a camp designed for kids with special needs, they’re going to have no clue how to manage a kid this age with behaviors like this. The environment will likely be chaotic and unfamiliar enough to dysregulate him and make him act out.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he naughty and you really need him to be supervised?

Are there security issues in the neighborhood?

Is there a bus that takes him home/can he be latchkey?

I think 13 is old enough to be at home alone if he is well-behaved enough. Some kids act out at aftercare because the environment is rough.

I would set up a Zoom call and ask him to do his afterschool activities in one room with a camera live feed you can check on. He can grab food, use the bathroom, etc. with privacy. But generally should be in the designated study/play space. It might seem a bit dystopian but look at it as a consequence. And if he likes being home alone he might be more relaxed and better behaved and not care.

My kids loved home time during covid. That was the breakpoint for both of them with aftercare...my oldest through 8th grade and youngest through 5th.

I realized from covid that my kids really put up with a lot at aftercare. It was better than endless videogaming for their bodies and minds but also socially stressful. My younger almost got kicked out do to a running beef between him and a bratty little girl that neither would stop.

Apologies if this isn't helpful. Just wanted to say something because 13 is on that cusp of being o.k. alone unless likely to do bad things.

He needs supervision and to be kept very occupied. ADHD and will get into trouble without structure.

Not a bad kid, sweet but immature.

Was suspended for eloping and hiding from staff.

I would have recommended HoopEd, but sometimes they can lack structure and not have a ton of supervision. So if your DC is prone to eloping the I would worry about the HoopEd folks keeping an eye on him. I would look for a martial arts camp or program that would like have more structure.

[Anonymous]

Learning new word in regards to teens, is eloping to skip school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hire a college kid home on winter break.

99.9% of college kids do not want this job. You’re lucky if they’re out of bed by noon. It’s their break they don’t want to babysit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Learning new word in regards to teens, is eloping to skip school?

It’s not teen specific. It’s when kids with special needs run away from teachers, caregivers, parents, etc. they just take off. It happens at all ages.