Nobody remembered my birthday

[Anonymous]

I don’t remember birthdays and it has nothing to do with how much I like a person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you on Facebook? That’s literally the only way I would know anyone’s birthday 🤣

Happy birthday op!!!

+1

OP, what about next year sending out an Evite for an open house? People can pop in and out. Low pressure and you can feel celebrated.

What grown ass person does this?!

[Anonymous]

The malice and casual scorn and judgment here is heartbreaking. It's also very unrealistic. A YouGov poll of 1,000 Americans showed that 72 percent spend at least some of their birthdays with friends.

It is not unusual to hope that friends celebrate you on your birthday. It's not unusual to want reciprocity.

The anger here is telling. Look deeply within. Why respond so rudely? Respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have ADHD and I'm allergic to people who care if I can remember their birthday. Sorry. I'm a great and generous friend to people who don't expect me to text back within an hour or make a big deal out of their birthdays past age 25.

Sounds like you have a lot going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The malice and casual scorn and judgment here is heartbreaking. It's also very unrealistic. A YouGov poll of 1,000 Americans showed that 72 percent spend at least some of their birthdays with friends.

It is not unusual to hope that friends celebrate you on your birthday. It's not unusual to want reciprocity.

The anger here is telling. Look deeply within. Why respond so rudely? Respect.

Where did you dig up this ridiculous poll of a whopping 1,000 people? You’re not making the point you think you are.

[Anonymous]

Step back. Let others plan and pull things together. Your turn to be the one to show up or not, or just send a casual text.

Are they wanting a fuss made for their birthday? Many adults are over birthday gatherings and would just like the casual text.

[Anonymous]

I do not know when my friends' birthdays are unless they are my BEST friends or Facebook reminds me.

[Anonymous]

No one ever remembers my birthday either, so over time I got used to not caring about it too much. But I have plenty of friends who are squeaky wheels who care about having their birthdays celebrated, and guess what? They organize something for themselves, text everyone with a date and time (or have their SO do it), and it’s always fun to celebrate with them, and because of these get-together I’m more likely to remember their birthdays close-ish to the date. If you never plan anything for yourself because you’re waiting to be pleasantly surprised by someone remembering that it’s your birthday, people are going to think you’re someone who doesn’t really care.

[Anonymous]

Girl, it'll be OK. Just go to the school dance tonight and keep an eye out for Jake. But don't give the nerd your panties!!

[Anonymous]

OP my birthday is like 3 days before Christmas, no one remembers it and I am 100% fine with it.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. Happy Birthday!!!

[Anonymous]

There was a children’s book “Sloth’s Birthday Party”. This post reminds me of that story.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people are not "birthday" people.

Extreme example: ME. I have a best friend in DC. We met 14 years ago when our oldest kids were in kindergarten. We text each other every single day. She knows my darkest thoughts and she would 100% "bury the body" with me (if I ever needed that service.)

I have no idea when her birthday is and she doesn't know mine. I literally do not know the month. I know, it's weird. But one of our gifts to each other is to never obligate each other with celebrating birthdays. Neither of us are birthday people AT ALL. There are many others like us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will never understand any person over 30 who gets bothered when people don't remember their birthday. Other than messages from family, I would never expect anyone else to remember my birthday. That is way too much narcissistic drama.

+1

So bratty and ridiculous

[Anonymous]

From your title, I was ready to be sympathetic. But it's not true that "nobody" remembered your birthday: your spouse did, your parents did, those people who sent texts did. You are fortunate to have those people in your life, and you're pouting because you wanted more. Sorry, but that's more than most adults get, unless they plan something for themselves.