How to survive 10-12 th grade?

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Anonymous wrote:My kid had a meltdown last year with all the AP exams, and an extra curricular that was peaking (think like a contest).

They were not good at time management, but we also discovered that they had a slight LD that only came to light last year, so we got accommodations.

I don't know how AP exam season is going to be next spring. They have another activity that peaks like right before AP exams start. At least now they have accommodations for their LD.

But, I'm anticipating another meltdown. Oh, and then college apps next fall when again, an extra curricular peaks around the same time.

And before someone says they should drop the EC, my kid really loves that EC. Life would otherwise be really boring for DC if all they had was academics, and DC would probably get depressed.

DC now knows they need better time management skills.

The whole year is stressful, but I don't think my kids find AP test season any moreso. (In fact, at my kid's school, March and April are all review in the AP classes, so that actually lightens the load a bit.). I tell them repeatedly that I don't care about the AP test results. I want them to take the AP classes for the challenge, but the AP exam grades don't matter for either HS class grades or college admissions (if you get high scores, you can report them but they are optional-- one of my kid was admitted to an Ivy without reporting them). They're convenient for covering credits at state schools (and many other schools) but something's got to give and that's where I draw the line. Do your best, but don't stress trying to get a 5 on everything.

Same. Our goal is challenge, exploring and exposure. If you get a 5 on the AP exam, great, but more importantly what did you learn from the class and what did you learn about yourself and studying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For strong students, I suggest a 1-2-3-4 AP class approach (APs per year 9-12). It shows increasing rigor without overdoing it. Sure, it may need to vary a bit but as a general approach. Taking 5 per year in both 11th and then 12th is nuts.

Everyone should take what they can handle and not more. But you can't say what's "nuts" for somehow you don't know, especially because 1 AP class + 1 honors or intro elective class can equivalent to 2 other AP classes, depending on which class you're in.

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Anonymous wrote:How did you all parents and kids do it?
with AP classes, and tough courses including Pre Calc. and then activities.

How?? The stress as a parent to see my child struggle so much is getting to me ... My DS works very hard but it has been a tough year.

What is the stress for you? If anything I try to be sure my kids learn how to manage their time and stress.

OP- yes, I'm trying to do the same. However, with so many quizzes and tests and activities, it is hard to manage everything. with work and helping them with their stress and manage everything.

My youngest is a senior. I don’t get this. What are you managing? By HS they need to manage their own schedules and we were on the sidelines for support, rides and money.

The short answer is you are lucky. You have kids who are more mature than the rest and don't have ADHD. I'm shocked about this but almost everyone we know helps their HS age child with a lot of the day-to-day administrative stuff.
My child daughter to me that they were the only ones packing their own lunches and shopping for their own groceries. I didn't believe her because really everyone was packing their own lunches by like 3rd grade but then I asked a lot of parents and they all told me they were doing those things as well as doing laundry to save their DDs time because their DDs were really pressed for every minute. I do get it. I feel like every day my daughter is not getting enough sleep no matter how hard she tries and how much we cut back.

[Anonymous]

To clarify she doesn't shop for all her groceries for all meals but she shops for whatever she wants for lunch and often special things for breakfast and snacks too. I'll drop her off while running other errands and pick her back up. I shop for dinner and other food for the rest of the family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did you all parents and kids do it?
with AP classes, and tough courses including Pre Calc. and then activities.

How?? The stress as a parent to see my child struggle so much is getting to me ... My DS works very hard but it has been a tough year.

What is the stress for you? If anything I try to be sure my kids learn how to manage their time and stress.

OP- yes, I'm trying to do the same. However, with so many quizzes and tests and activities, it is hard to manage everything. with work and helping them with their stress and manage everything.

My youngest is a senior. I don’t get this. What are you managing? By HS they need to manage their own schedules and we were on the sidelines for support, rides and money.

The short answer is you are lucky. You have kids who are more mature than the rest and don't have ADHD. I'm shocked about this but almost everyone we know helps their HS age child with a lot of the day-to-day administrative stuff.
My child daughter to me that they were the only ones packing their own lunches and shopping for their own groceries. I didn't believe her because really everyone was packing their own lunches by like 3rd grade but then I asked a lot of parents and they all told me they were doing those things as well as doing laundry to save their DDs time because their DDs were really pressed for every minute. I do get it. I feel like every day my daughter is not getting enough sleep no matter how hard she tries and how much we cut back.

You make assumptions. I’ve been through this three times - twice with kids with SN, including ADHD, and once with a NT, kid. I didn’t handle the day to day for any of them and all were successful.

[Anonymous]

High school for them is 100x more work than it was for me. I wouldn't have made it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To clarify she doesn't shop for all her groceries for all meals but she shops for whatever she wants for lunch and often special things for breakfast and snacks too. I'll drop her off while running other errands and pick her back up. I shop for dinner and other food for the rest of the family.

I'm with you here. I actually tend to cut fruits and veggies for my dd's lunch (and leave them in the fridge) or else she doesn't include them. But many (most) evenings, she prepares her own dinner since her practices and activiites don't align with the family schedule and she doesn't much like my cooking anyway. And has been doing her own laundry since sometime in elementary school. And if ever I remind her of an upcoming test I get a really annoyed response ("Do you think I don't *know* about my upcoming physics test???")

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:High school for them is 100x more work than it was for me. I wouldn't have made it.

Yep than during dino years. But then they have apps for everything which seems like more work for a dinosaur but these kids are more saavy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did you all parents and kids do it?
with AP classes, and tough courses including Pre Calc. and then activities.

How?? The stress as a parent to see my child struggle so much is getting to me ... My DS works very hard but it has been a tough year.

What is the stress for you? If anything I try to be sure my kids learn how to manage their time and stress.

OP- yes, I'm trying to do the same. However, with so many quizzes and tests and activities, it is hard to manage everything. with work and helping them with their stress and manage everything.

My youngest is a senior. I don’t get this. What are you managing? By HS they need to manage their own schedules and we were on the sidelines for support, rides and money.

The short answer is you are lucky. You have kids who are more mature than the rest and don't have ADHD. I'm shocked about this but almost everyone we know helps their HS age child with a lot of the day-to-day administrative stuff.
My child daughter to me that they were the only ones packing their own lunches and shopping for their own groceries. I didn't believe her because really everyone was packing their own lunches by like 3rd grade but then I asked a lot of parents and they all told me they were doing those things as well as doing laundry to save their DDs time because their DDs were really pressed for every minute. I do get it. I feel like every day my daughter is not getting enough sleep no matter how hard she tries and how much we cut back.

That’s absurd your kid had to shop for their own groceries. I do lunches in hs and laundry. It’s all family stuff. They help when they can.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you all parents and kids do it?
with AP classes, and tough courses including Pre Calc. and then activities.

How?? The stress as a parent to see my child struggle so much is getting to me ... My DS works very hard but it has been a tough year.

What is the stress for you? If anything I try to be sure my kids learn how to manage their time and stress.

OP- yes, I'm trying to do the same. However, with so many quizzes and tests and activities, it is hard to manage everything. with work and helping them with their stress and manage everything.

My youngest is a senior. I don’t get this. What are you managing? By HS they need to manage their own schedules and we were on the sidelines for support, rides and money.

The short answer is you are lucky. You have kids who are more mature than the rest and don't have ADHD. I'm shocked about this but almost everyone we know helps their HS age child with a lot of the day-to-day administrative stuff.
My child daughter to me that they were the only ones packing their own lunches and shopping for their own groceries. I didn't believe her because really everyone was packing their own lunches by like 3rd grade but then I asked a lot of parents and they all told me they were doing those things as well as doing laundry to save their DDs time because their DDs were really pressed for every minute. I do get it. I feel like every day my daughter is not getting enough sleep no matter how hard she tries and how much we cut back.

I promise you they aren’t pressed for every minute. If they reduced the amount of time they were spending on their phones they would have lots of time. If they took a schedule of classes they could actually handle instead of needing tutors for 2-3 classes they would be fine. If they learned how to study and managing their time they would be fine. Would it be stressful some times, sure. But I don’t get this micromanaging of kids life all through high school. How do you know they are prepared to be on their own if you are doing that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you all parents and kids do it?
with AP classes, and tough courses including Pre Calc. and then activities.

How?? The stress as a parent to see my child struggle so much is getting to me ... My DS works very hard but it has been a tough year.

What is the stress for you? If anything I try to be sure my kids learn how to manage their time and stress.

OP- yes, I'm trying to do the same. However, with so many quizzes and tests and activities, it is hard to manage everything. with work and helping them with their stress and manage everything.

My youngest is a senior. I don’t get this. What are you managing? By HS they need to manage their own schedules and we were on the sidelines for support, rides and money.

The short answer is you are lucky. You have kids who are more mature than the rest and don't have ADHD. I'm shocked about this but almost everyone we know helps their HS age child with a lot of the day-to-day administrative stuff.
My child daughter to me that they were the only ones packing their own lunches and shopping for their own groceries. I didn't believe her because really everyone was packing their own lunches by like 3rd grade but then I asked a lot of parents and they all told me they were doing those things as well as doing laundry to save their DDs time because their DDs were really pressed for every minute. I do get it. I feel like every day my daughter is not getting enough sleep no matter how hard she tries and how much we cut back.

I promise you they aren’t pressed for every minute. If they reduced the amount of time they were spending on their phones they would have lots of time. If they took a schedule of classes they could actually handle instead of needing tutors for 2-3 classes they would be fine. If they learned how to study and managing their time they would be fine. Would it be stressful some times, sure. But I don’t get this micromanaging of kids life all through high school. How do you know they are prepared to be on their own if you are doing that.

Mine don't have free access to phones or electronics but they are in a lot of activities and several AP classes, including Cal BC. So, yes, if they need support they get tutors as it is not expensive and sometimes you get in a situation where the teachers take off a lot of time or don't put a lot of time into teaching and we want a good foundation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How did you all parents and kids do it?
with AP classes, and tough courses including Pre Calc. and then activities.

How?? The stress as a parent to see my child struggle so much is getting to me ... My DS works very hard but it has been a tough year.

What is the stress for you? If anything I try to be sure my kids learn how to manage their time and stress.

OP- yes, I'm trying to do the same. However, with so many quizzes and tests and activities, it is hard to manage everything. with work and helping them with their stress and manage everything.

My youngest is a senior. I don’t get this. What are you managing? By HS they need to manage their own schedules and we were on the sidelines for support, rides and money.

The short answer is you are lucky. You have kids who are more mature than the rest and don't have ADHD. I'm shocked about this but almost everyone we know helps their HS age child with a lot of the day-to-day administrative stuff.
My child daughter to me that they were the only ones packing their own lunches and shopping for their own groceries. I didn't believe her because really everyone was packing their own lunches by like 3rd grade but then I asked a lot of parents and they all told me they were doing those things as well as doing laundry to save their DDs time because their DDs were really pressed for every minute. I do get it. I feel like every day my daughter is not getting enough sleep no matter how hard she tries and how much we cut back.

I promise you they aren’t pressed for every minute. If they reduced the amount of time they were spending on their phones they would have lots of time. If they took a schedule of classes they could actually handle instead of needing tutors for 2-3 classes they would be fine. If they learned how to study and managing their time they would be fine. Would it be stressful some times, sure. But I don’t get this micromanaging of kids life all through high school. How do you know they are prepared to be on their own if you are doing that.

Mine don't have free access to phones or electronics but they are in a lot of activities and several AP classes, including Cal BC. So, yes, if they need support they get tutors as it is not expensive and sometimes you get in a situation where the teachers take off a lot of time or don't put a lot of time into teaching and we want a good foundation.

Where did you find a “not expensive” tutor for Calc BC….?