in your experience what's the best size school for having an active social and dating life in college?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought the MRS degree was a thing of the past. Isn’t college for education

It’s making a comeback.
Turns out the millennial experience of let’s all focus on our careers and sleep around in our 20s was good for some, but left a lot of mid-30s gals reevaluating the choice and without a ton of options to meet matches outside of hookup-culture apps.

Then I suggest she attends a university based on male to female ratio. Good lord …

Always be able to support yourself. That’s what my parents told me in my childhood. So glad I had a career and my own retirement and not living back in the 50s.

The man is not the plan.

[Anonymous]

I thought the MRS degree was a thing of the past. Isn’t college for education

Go into the Relationships forum and see how hard it is to date and find a quality life partner after college!

A year or two out of college, it did occur to me (for the first time) ... I had been around 15,000 men my own age, and I wasn't looking for someone!? Someone to marry. Should have!

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I met my husband through a friend of a friend after college.

College was full of hook up culture, not guys looking for long term. I doubt that has changed much.

I did date one really great guy in college for over a year. We decided long term that we wanted different things out of life and split on good terms. I still consider him a dear friend. But he was VERY much the exception!

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I lacked the emotional maturity to select a partner for marriage in college. I remember visiting a friend at a SEC school a year after I graduated from college. We had played division 1 baseball together before he transferred. He told me that there were a group of women at the school who were husband hunting. He had started dating a woman and about 6 months in she asked him when he was going to propose. He was 21 and planning on going to medical school. The last thing he was thinking about getting engaged. He ended up meeting his wife while in residency.

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Anonymous wrote:I would consider the ratio of boys to girls in the schools rather than worry about the size of the student body.

Overall it is close to 60% Female/40% Male these days nationally. The ones that are closer to balanced tend to have large engineering programs.

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Anonymous wrote:It will depend more on how successful she is at getting connected on campus and where she will be comfortable making the effort. Kids can thrive socially or be isolated at small, medium and large colleges. The trick is really making the effort at first building a friend group. Find the college where that will happen naturally and the dating will come from being in circles with friends of friends, etc.

This. The effort is key and that’s a requirement everywhere.

Agreed. I think it’s easier to find both friends and dating partners places that are a good fit for the student, and it also does take effort.

[Anonymous]

ideal size - between 1200 to 2000, and most imp - student faculty ratio less than 10:1.

Anything above 3k isn't fine.

Obviously single gender school is ????

[Anonymous]

Meeting people - including both friends and romantic partners - is all about being proactive. No matter the size of her college, encourage her to put herself out there and try different things on campus - a student club or activity that seems interesting or an intramural sport or sorority or student government / committee or ethnic or religious social group or a single-day service activity etc.

It’s all about getting out of her dorm room and mixing with other kids. She’ll find her people, romantically and otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:I would consider the ratio of boys to girls in the schools rather than worry about the size of the student body.

Both matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought the MRS degree was a thing of the past. Isn’t college for education

Eventually both genders need MR and MRS degrees in life. Instead of frantically browsing dating apps and leftover matches in 30's after getting everything done, why not date when you are around lots of people your age 24/7?

[Anonymous]

Making friends, dating, romance, finding mentors, exploring interests and careers, securing internships and scholarships, becoming active in geopolitics are as important as academics.

[Anonymous]

Honestly - if she wants to date a lot in college - it will be easy if she is pretty and reasonably social - I’m not sure the school size matters as much as whether she is the type of girl that boys at that school go for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought the MRS degree was a thing of the past. Isn’t college for education

Go into the Relationships forum and see how hard it is to date and find a quality life partner after college! It gets harder and harder as time passes. The apps are horrible, and if you want to meet "organically" so many places are "off limits" as far as many women are concerned - work, the gym, the coffee shop, the bookshop. It's a total minefield, and plenty of men have been conditioned not to approach women in public. Flirting and getting phone numbers is increasingly a lost art.

You are not doing women any favors if you pretend college is "just for education" and they should take finding a potential husband off the table. You will never find a better place to do so than college!

DP. This is true. My 25 yr. old son is having a hard time meeting prospective dates. He works almost entirely with other men, and as you said, he has been conditioned not to approach women in public, like so many men his age. It's really not at all a good time for young people to meet other young people once they're out of college and on their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ideal size - between 1200 to 2000, and most imp - student faculty ratio less than 10:1.

Anything above 3k isn't fine.

Obviously single gender school is ????

What? I went to a large school and had tons of opportunities - not just for dating but for clubs, organizations, friends, etc.

[Anonymous]

I think the ideal size is 4,000 - 8,000. Smaller than 2,000 is too small an insular unless it is near other small schools where the students interact.