Are men over 40 never married no kids red flags?

[Anonymous]

Make sure the sex is good. Make sure he is capable of having sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^^that said, my 47 year old exDH probably appears to be a catch with his “family man” exterior, good career, and fun hobbies. He is likely borderline with serious trauma and mental health issues that won’t emerge until later, so good luck to whoever takes a chance on him.

Same! I think about this all the time that some poor woman is going to think she hit the jackpot with my ex and get sucked in to the trauma and drama

Perhaps you were his trigger. Women who file for divorce don't have a rearview mirror. Maybe another woman will bring a different side of him. Every divorced woman thinks she is special.

I mean I guess if she's into lying, cheating, gaslighting manipulators withanger issues, enjoys holes being punched in her walls followed by threats of suicide that she has to de-escalate then more power to her.

Our exDH’s sound alike.

What triggers them is being attached to someone. The minute the relationship starts they will be off to the races. It might improve because they might be more cautious. But I know that I didn’t cause it and I can’t cure it. My kids now tell me “daddy has mood swings.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women on this board are unlikely to see women's dating app profiles, but it is very common to see women in their late 30s/early 40s list "never married, no kids" as a badge of pride in their profile, so it is not surprising if men see that, think it works both ways and include that as well. (it doesn't work both ways)

Why doesn’t it work both ways?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 48 divorced and 2 kids. A never married 40+ man had a lot more to offer to a single woman than I do.

He doesn't have expenses related to kids(529, sports, insurance, clothes, you name it etc)
You will never have to be a step mom with him he can give you your own kids
He has more free time no 50% custody
He has no ex wife issue
He is probably still in good shape and health
Since he has never been married and subsequently dumped he still has mostly positive views of women
And on and on

Why wouldn't such a guy be the dream man to s y single woman?

100% this. Even if it raises red flags that he's been slow to commit, I'd take a chance on a never-married 40+ man over a man with kids and an ex-wife 10 times out of 10.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. I’d say so. Red flag. Something’s off. Even if he was military or peace corp for 15+ years abroad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women on this board are unlikely to see women's dating app profiles, but it is very common to see women in their late 30s/early 40s list "never married, no kids" as a badge of pride in their profile, so it is not surprising if men see that, think it works both ways and include that as well. (it doesn't work both ways)

Why doesn’t it work both ways?

Because women are looking to sign a contract and a man who hasn't signed a contract in his life is much much less likely to sign one than a divorced man.