Catholic Parents OK-big Birth Control for College Age Daughter

[Anonymous]

she need 2 forms of birth control

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a sophomore in college. She let us know she would visit the campus health clinic for birth control. She has a boyfriend. They have been together for about six months, nice kid. DD is still under our health insurance.

We are ok-ing this request. Are we the only Catholic parents in this position? We are not super conservative Catholics nor majorly involved at our parish, but both kids went to Catholic k-8.

It is common, but most people just do not talk about it (only because it is such a personal topic, nothing to do with being Catholic).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:you are kidding?

for the anti-catholics, 100% of catholics use birth control in the US

Come on. We know this is not true. There are pockets of Catholics not using birth control in this country. Small minority, but you can’t say 100%.

Correct. I am an NFP user (Marquette Method). 2 planned children. No method or user "failures". There is a whole realm out there of NFP methods and research, all scientifically-based. It began with the Billings in Australia. And in the United States much of the research and work was or is being done at Jesuit institutions! Creighton, Marquette and Georgetown (which has had great success helping impoverished women worldwide https://gumc.georgetown.edu/gumc-stories/small-fish-in-global-pond/)

Girls can be taught fertility awareness too, which helps them understand their cycles, to know what is normal and to predict menstruation. It can be empowering.

It doesn’t work so great if you have irregular cycles or short cycles. Plus, the whole avoiding relations at the time where it is the most pleasurable and your body the most receptive. As a woman, you’re just better off opting out completely.

Opting out of what -- sex? When it is most pleasurable? You can't be serious.

I sincerely hope you mean opting out of blind compliance with arcane religious guidelines that are meant to control and suppress women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:you are kidding?

for the anti-catholics, 100% of catholics use birth control in the US

Come on. We know this is not true. There are pockets of Catholics not using birth control in this country. Small minority, but you can’t say 100%.

Correct. I am an NFP user (Marquette Method). 2 planned children. No method or user "failures". There is a whole realm out there of NFP methods and research, all scientifically-based. It began with the Billings in Australia. And in the United States much of the research and work was or is being done at Jesuit institutions! Creighton, Marquette and Georgetown (which has had great success helping impoverished women worldwide https://gumc.georgetown.edu/gumc-stories/small-fish-in-global-pond/)

Girls can be taught fertility awareness too, which helps them understand their cycles, to know what is normal and to predict menstruation. It can be empowering.

It doesn’t work so great if you have irregular cycles or short cycles. Plus, the whole avoiding relations at the time where it is the most pleasurable and your body the most receptive. As a woman, you’re just better off opting out completely.

Opting out of what -- sex? When it is most pleasurable? You can't be serious.

I sincerely hope you mean opting out of blind compliance with arcane religious guidelines that are meant to control and suppress women.

That was my point. If the only “moral” choice your religion gives you for birth control is something like NFP, you’re better off telling your husband to get lost.

[Anonymous]

You need to pick between birth control or abortion, unwanted pregnancies, emotional/physical trauma and changed life trajectory for her.

[Anonymous]

Even if she follows your moral code of abstinence, she can be compromised due to peer pressure, drugs, force etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a sophomore in college. She let us know she would visit the campus health clinic for birth control. She has a boyfriend. They have been together for about six months, nice kid. DD is still under our health insurance.

We are ok-ing this request. Are we the only Catholic parents in this position? We are not super conservative Catholics nor majorly involved at our parish, but both kids went to Catholic k-8.

I went to Catholic school pre-k through 12 and the vast majority of my friends in high school were all on birth control. DD is in Catholic and will start the pill in high school.

We don’t need any surprises. Catholic or not, kids fool around much earlier than we did.

[Anonymous]

Weird that this thread became about use of contraceptives rather than premarital sex.

If it were my kid, my answer would simply be, “I will never encourage premarital sex, but you are an adult now and it’s your choice to make.”

[Anonymous]

The continued Catholic opposition to birth control, even for married people, is my number 1 biggest problem with the church. It just makes zero sense to keep populating this earth at this rate plus it is so clearly associated with greater poverty and poor outcomes for women and society at large. Plus no one follows it so it’s just so hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I consider myself a fairly conservative practicing Catholic and not only would I okay this request but I don’t think I should even be in the position of being consulted on it for my 18+ daughter, regardless of whether she is on my insurance.

This!
Also, what does DD do if you don’t ok it?

[Anonymous]

Wait. What?! She is an adult. How gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YES, it is good that your daughter is hoping to protect herself from an unwanted pregnancy. I'm Catholic. I am fine with birth control.

Totally agree! She's smart and being cautious. Good thinking. And it's nice that she can share her life with you. Sounds like a good relationship.

I'm not trying to be rude at all, but did you never use birth control yourself? Mad respect if you could live like that, but I knew I could not handle more than two kids. I think most Catholics use birth control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is a sophomore in college. She let us know she would visit the campus health clinic for birth control. She has a boyfriend. They have been together for about six months, nice kid. DD is still under our health insurance.

We are ok-ing this request. Are we the only Catholic parents in this position? We are not super conservative Catholics nor majorly involved at our parish, but both kids went to Catholic k-8.

She didn't ask,she informed you what she was doing.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be okay with her sleeping with her boyfriend but I would okay the birth control to limit the consequences.