APS - What dress code?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am actually bothered a lot by the fact that the girls are the ones that are really in violation of the dress code. They are the ones that are not wearing a lot. The boys dress very comfortably for school. Because I have a hard time believing that it is comfortable to have your ass cheek, stuck to a seat because there is no material to your shorts. And nobody wants to talk about why that is. Why do the girls need to dress like that? Or what is being marketed to them specifically?

I’m so relieved that other parents had the same reaction that I did! I was getting really worried about the state of parenting in America!

Oh great. The AEM crazies are here.

I think you misunderstood me. I’m glad people think there should be a dress code. The folks on AEM are all for letting it all hang out. Somehow that equates to body positivity??

NP here. I saw that AEM post and I think that one of the things people were reacting to was the tone of the post. It called out inappropriate appearance only of the girls, mentioning boobs and butt. There was no mention of boys who smell terrible, wear low hanging shorts, etc. There are some realities about puberty and figuring out how to address your changing body that all kids go through, and I read some of the disapproval of that post as people reacting to the poster's insensitivity to that. Also, while I really prefer my DD to dress modestly, I can admit that for years girls have been told they need to do certain things to make sure they don't serve as a distraction to boys, rather than teaching boys to keep their eyes to themselves.

[Anonymous]

My issue with the thread was 100% the tone and shaming.

[Anonymous]

As a mother of 2 teenage girls, I 100% wish the school had rules on length of shorts and no stomachs showing. Yes, I could enforce these rules myself (and I do to an extent) but even the "compromise" I find with my girls is more skin than I'd prefer. I'd love the school to be the heavy, but I know it will never happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mother of 2 teenage girls, I 100% wish the school had rules on length of shorts and no stomachs showing. Yes, I could enforce these rules myself (and I do to an extent) but even the "compromise" I find with my girls is more skin than I'd prefer. I'd love the school to be the heavy, but I know it will never happen.

The funny thing is, many of these administrators, teachers and our own parents wore the same kind of stuff in the 60s/70s.

[Anonymous]

Of all of the things I can complain about APS, dress codes and what children wear is at the bottom of my list.

The post was total s*** shaming. I usually cheer her posts, but that one made me lose some respect.

Ew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a mother of 2 teenage girls, I 100% wish the school had rules on length of shorts and no stomachs showing. Yes, I could enforce these rules myself (and I do to an extent) but even the "compromise" I find with my girls is more skin than I'd prefer. I'd love the school to be the heavy, but I know it will never happen.

The funny thing is, many of these administrators, teachers and our own parents wore the same kind of stuff in the 60s/70s.

But did they wear them to school? It’s my understanding that in those days, you had to dress nicely/modestly for school. My mother talks about how they weren’t even allowed to wear jeans to school. Girls had to wear skirts/dresses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am actually bothered a lot by the fact that the girls are the ones that are really in violation of the dress code. They are the ones that are not wearing a lot. The boys dress very comfortably for school. Because I have a hard time believing that it is comfortable to have your ass cheek, stuck to a seat because there is no material to your shorts. And nobody wants to talk about why that is. Why do the girls need to dress like that? Or what is being marketed to them specifically?

I’m so relieved that other parents had the same reaction that I did! I was getting really worried about the state of parenting in America!

Oh great. The AEM crazies are here.

I think you misunderstood me. I’m glad people think there should be a dress code. The folks on AEM are all for letting it all hang out. Somehow that equates to body positivity??

NP here. I saw that AEM post and I think that one of the things people were reacting to was the tone of the post. It called out inappropriate appearance only of the girls, mentioning boobs and butt. There was no mention of boys who smell terrible, wear low hanging shorts, etc. There are some realities about puberty and figuring out how to address your changing body that all kids go through, and I read some of the disapproval of that post as people reacting to the poster's insensitivity to that. Also, while I really prefer my DD to dress modestly, I can admit that for years girls have been told they need to do certain things to make sure they don't serve as a distraction to boys, rather than teaching boys to keep their eyes to themselves.

Aren’t low hanging shorts, essentially, butts? I’m a teacher. I can tell you that 90% of inappropriate school attire is worn by girls. Those two-inch hotty hot Lululemon shorts? I avert my eyes, but come on! How about we have some standards? Would you be okay with me wearing them in a classroom? School is not the place, if one exists. They aren’t women yet- they are children.

[Anonymous]

Is this a Facebook post? What is the Facebook group name? I don’t know what AEM stands for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a Facebook post? What is the Facebook group name? I don’t know what AEM stands for.

Arlington Education Matters. Yes, it’s a FB group.

[Anonymous]

Boys have butts, too. (And some have boobs.)

There SHOULD be a rule addressing length of shorts. And all genders should follow it.

It’s not slut shaming. It’s a hygiene issue. Classroom chairs are essentially toilet seats if someone’s bare butt and genitals are in contact with it.

Ew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of all of the things I can complain about APS, dress codes and what children wear is at the bottom of my list.

The post was total s*** shaming. I usually cheer her posts, but that one made me lose some respect.

Ew.

so when you saw the words in the post your immediate thought was slut

So maybe you aren’t as ok with it as you thought.

Would you personally let your child go out dressed that way?

What I observed when my child was at Wakefield was that income/education levels were directly related to how kids were dressed and no I don’t mean brand name labels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My issue with the thread was 100% the tone and shaming.

Yep, who is she to lecture other parents? I don't need that in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all of the things I can complain about APS, dress codes and what children wear is at the bottom of my list.

The post was total s*** shaming. I usually cheer her posts, but that one made me lose some respect.

Ew.

so when you saw the words in the post your immediate thought was slut

So maybe you aren’t as ok with it as you thought.

Would you personally let your child go out dressed that way?

What I observed when my child was at Wakefield was that income/education levels were directly related to how kids were dressed and no I don’t mean brand name labels.

You know everyone's income/education level?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all of the things I can complain about APS, dress codes and what children wear is at the bottom of my list.

The post was total s*** shaming. I usually cheer her posts, but that one made me lose some respect.

Ew.

so when you saw the words in the post your immediate thought was slut

So maybe you aren’t as ok with it as you thought.

Would you personally let your child go out dressed that way?

What I observed when my child was at Wakefield was that income/education levels were directly related to how kids were dressed and no I don’t mean brand name labels.

You know everyone's income/education level?

At Wakefield? Yes it’s not hard to do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of all of the things I can complain about APS, dress codes and what children wear is at the bottom of my list.

The post was total s*** shaming. I usually cheer her posts, but that one made me lose some respect.

Ew.

so when you saw the words in the post your immediate thought was slut

So maybe you aren’t as ok with it as you thought.

Would you personally let your child go out dressed that way?

What I observed when my child was at Wakefield was that income/education levels were directly related to how kids were dressed and no I don’t mean brand name labels.

You know everyone's income/education level?

At Wakefield? Yes it’s not hard to do

But you know it by how they dress, huh? Or is it by the color of their skin? Exactly how are you correlating income with attire? Chicken or egg?