If your kid yells at you, what do you do?

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Anonymous wrote:How old is this child? Are they neurotypical?

Yes dear nts yell

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Give them a look and ask who in the heck they think they are talking to with that tone. My face and tone leaves no room for misunderstanding they are to get it together or else. If someone needs to walk away it’s going to be them.

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Anonymous wrote:I just immediately disengage and walk away. My face falls; I stop eye contact. The kid either finds me to apologize or when he's calmer I ask him why he thinks I walked away and he says he's sorry. But this doesn't a happen a lot. Maybe once or twice a year,

I would try modeling a better response so that your kid doesn’t end up in a future relationship with unhealthy communication.

There is no better response when someone is abusing you. You get away from them! This is what I want to model.

Yeah but a kid is not an abuser. The logic does not work. Anyway, good luck.

The kid is not an abuser, but their actions are abusive. They need to learn abusive actions are not ok. And there are lots of ways to react to that.

They need to learn how to regulate their emotions. Having a parental figure turn their back on them and withhold love until an apology is made, is a messed up dynamic that does not support the end goal. I would not do that to a young child.

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I send them to their room. I go up and talk to them later but it's not ok to yell at me.

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Anonymous wrote:I just immediately disengage and walk away. My face falls; I stop eye contact. The kid either finds me to apologize or when he's calmer I ask him why he thinks I walked away and he says he's sorry. But this doesn't a happen a lot. Maybe once or twice a year,

I would try modeling a better response so that your kid doesn’t end up in a future relationship with unhealthy communication.

There is no better response when someone is abusing you. You get away from them! This is what I want to model.

Yeah but a kid is not an abuser. The logic does not work. Anyway, good luck.

The kid is not an abuser, but their actions are abusive. They need to learn abusive actions are not ok. And there are lots of ways to react to that.

They need to learn how to regulate their emotions. Having a parental figure turn their back on them and withhold love until an apology is made, is a messed up dynamic that does not support the end goal. I would not do that to a young child.

Who said anything about withholding love? Securely attached children don't think yelling at their parent and getting a negative response is abandonment.