Key to a happy marriage: marry an older man

[Anonymous]

Heh. I used to think that.
My 64 year old husband (I'm 57) walks and talks like Joe Biden now. I am more of a caregiver these days and THAT is not fun

[Anonymous]

The key is actually to marry a decent person and have a “boring” life.

There is so so much drama in the world, the last place I want excitement is my family life. DH and I are both normal, down to earth people. Even if we divorce (hopefully never), I am fairly confirmed we would have a decent relationship.

[Anonymous]

Definitely do not recommend marrying someone whose ideas about gender roles were formed 20 years before yours.

[Anonymous]

Don't marry anyone. Just date. Finally found a man I'm crazy about and wouldn't want to ruing it by getting married.
He is not hot for most women, but I find him extremely hot. He is also poor and has to work day and night. If he does have time, he spends it with me or goes to see what ex wife and daughter are doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The key is actually to marry a decent person and have a “boring” life.

There is so so much drama in the world, the last place I want excitement is my family life. DH and I are both normal, down to earth people. Even if we divorce (hopefully never), I am fairly confirmed we would have a decent relationship.

Boring would kill me. It is, in fact, killing me.

[Anonymous]

Who said I get older but “the women I am attracted to stay the same age”. ?

[Anonymous]

Ask the British Royal Family how that works out for them. Poor Princess Diana. Her husband wanted someone his own age.

[Anonymous]

My husband is 2 years older and we are so happy together. I think you might be on to something!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The key is actually to marry a decent person and have a “boring” life.

There is so so much drama in the world, the last place I want excitement is my family life. DH and I are both normal, down to earth people. Even if we divorce (hopefully never), I am fairly confirmed we would have a decent relationship.

Boring would kill me. It is, in fact, killing me.

Why? I put “boring” under quotation marks because we are actually quite adventurous as a family but we don’t have any intra-family drama.

What kind of boring are you living through?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely do not recommend marrying someone whose ideas about gender roles were formed 20 years before yours.

I agree! I did this and am now suffering the consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The key is actually to marry a decent person and have a “boring” life.

There is so so much drama in the world, the last place I want excitement is my family life. DH and I are both normal, down to earth people. Even if we divorce (hopefully never), I am fairly confirmed we would have a decent relationship.

Boring would kill me. It is, in fact, killing me.

Why? I put “boring” under quotation marks because we are actually quite adventurous as a family but we don’t have any intra-family drama.

What kind of boring are you living through?

Disinterest from DH in me, trying anything new in bed, emotionally connecting, trying new things together, going on dates, keeping himself fit, etc etc.

[Anonymous]

Sure there are exceptions but as a general rule a 10 year age difference is the maximum I would recommend. If the female is older, I'd lower that to five years.

[Anonymous]

I believed this when I was young. I didn’t realize that the older man was abusive and I was just an easier target.

After me, he bought and dumped two mail order brides.

He’s dead now, thankfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marry a man older than you. You will always be the hot young thing and he can’t do better than you!

Ignoring the fact that when you're still the hot young thing, he'll be a really, really old thing.

My mother remarried to an older guy. She was 28 and he was 48. Great for a while I guess. He is now 90 and has been in bad shape for a decade. She has spent her 70s taking care of him. She hates it. She hates him. Has for 30 plus years.

[Anonymous]

It worked for me. I love my geezer (14 yr age gap) and he loves me, his eternally hot young wife. And (incidentally) my net worth is off the charts. Best decision I ever made!