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I’m the outlier here I guess but I don’t like it. It usually only happens if I’m walking alone, peacefully. Doesn’t happen when I’m with my kids and husband - which is when I’d not mind it. I have so little alone time with young kids, always something being asked of me, that when I have 15 min to walk quietly with a coffee and 2 different groups approach me and ask me to take their photos, I do it with a smile but I’m like , ugh can’t I just enjoy one moment to myself without someone needing me?
No one ever asks my husband. |
| No, do not mind at all! |
Normal people don't worry/think about this. |
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When someone asks me I worry it might be the prelude to some scam.
I was in Shanghai many years ago and two young people tried to pull the "Chinese Tea house scam" on me-they initiated contact by asking me to take their photo. Luckily it was my first day in Shanghai and I was jet-lagged and exhausted so I declined their invite just based on that-I didn't even realize they were trying to lure in me in for a scam until later when I read about the scam online. But after that I'm just more suspicious in general. |
Life hack - when asking a stranger to take your picture, get an older teen/early twenties girl to do it. They know how to take great pictures. |
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I don’t mind and generally ask if I see one person out from a group picture. Sometimes I’ll ask a random person to take a picture for us.
A potential scam never entered my mind. |
What's the scam? |
Basically they will strike up a conversation with a western tourist and ask the tourist to join them for tea at a tea house. Sometimes they will say they want to practice English or so the tourist can learn more about Chinese culture. They bring the tourist to a tea house, where the menu has no prices, and the tea house workers bring a few varieties of tea and then present the tourist with a huge bill (hundreds of dollars for just a few cups of tea.) If you google "china tea house scam" you'll find lots of stories about it. |
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poster who was targeted for the tea house scam here again
More specifics about my situation: I'm American but my brother was living in Shanghai for a year for his job, and I was there to visit him. He still had to work during the day so I was on my own, touring the city. This was my first day there and I was still really exhausted from travel. I had just left the Shanghai museum when two young people (college age) approached me. It was a girl and a boy and the girl did all the talking. They asked me to take their photo and after I did the girl started telling me how the boy was her friend and they were both students. That he was visiting her from a different part of China and they had heard about a "tea festival" and they were on their way there. They invited me to go with them and "experience culture." I actually LOVE meeting people from different countries and cultures and honestly if it had been a different day I might have fallen for it and gone along. They seemed very sweet and friendly. But I was just so tired and wanted to go back to my brother's apartment to rest so I declined. It wasn't until much later that I was reading online and realized I dodged a bullet. |
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I am happy to, if asked. I also offer, when I see one person missing from the group to take the shot. I usually aim to take 2-3, to up the odds that they will like one.
Once I saw a young woman trying to take a photo of her baby with her VeryFamousFather. You would all know his name. His security team had waited outside so could not takeaphoto. So of course I offered to get them all into a photo, using her phone of course. |
So just say "No, sorry". Guarantee your husband doesn't make eye contact with them and doesn't slow down when a stranger approaches to ask him a question. Look less approachable. |
You're the reason COVID is endemic. |
What do you think they would have done to you? |
| I don't mind. I'm a photographer so I know they will have the best shots I can take with their cell phone and I'll often advise them on posing. |