If a bunch of teens show up to your house around dinner time, do you always feed them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only have pre-teens but when does this change? I’d worry that their parents would be upset at me for feeding them. Or that their parents didn’t know where they were and were upset they were over at my place. Hungry tweens have shown up at dinner time and I just tell them to go home because it’s time for us to eat. I’m not a stingy person either and I do supply snacks galore.

That's just you.

[Anonymous]

Yes order in. But I would have talked to my kid so we were clear on what was happening

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. Summer time DH would grill a fea and I would make some sides.

Did you read? Empty fridge, just home from vacation.


OP- yes I would order pizza and wings

OP asked what people would do. Some people keep a stocked freezer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

What a strange and stingy “rule.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

So if two friends show up, you will feed one of those friends but not the other one. Got it. Totally normal. You must have a lot of friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I only have pre-teens but when does this change? I’d worry that their parents would be upset at me for feeding them. Or that their parents didn’t know where they were and were upset they were over at my place. Hungry tweens have shown up at dinner time and I just tell them to go home because it’s time for us to eat. I’m not a stingy person either and I do supply snacks galore.

You worry what other parents think?

Jesus.

Oh...we don't have to worry about this? Sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

So if two friends show up, you will feed one of those friends but not the other one. Got it. Totally normal. You must have a lot of friends.

I think it's obvious that if more than one friend show up and stay until dinnertime, gentle hints are dropped that it's time to go. Not that one is fed but not the others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I only have pre-teens but when does this change? I’d worry that their parents would be upset at me for feeding them. Or that their parents didn’t know where they were and were upset they were over at my place. Hungry tweens have shown up at dinner time and I just tell them to go home because it’s time for us to eat. I’m not a stingy person either and I do supply snacks galore.

This is me too.
One kid I might ask if they want to stay. A whole group? Nope.

+1 usually we don’t have friends over near dinner time for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

So if two friends show up, you will feed one of those friends but not the other one. Got it. Totally normal. You must have a lot of friends.

lol. I thought it was obvious that I meant I would include one extra kid in dinner, but if it’s more than that (it’s often an extra 4 plus kids) I did not provide dinner for any friends.

Whatever I planned for dinner for a family of 4 can usually accommodate a family of 5, but more than that usually means something else has to be made/bought.

I have a lot of friends, thanks for asking. I think most of you have never been the hangout house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

So if two friends show up, you will feed one of those friends but not the other one. Got it. Totally normal. You must have a lot of friends.

lol. I thought it was obvious that I meant I would include one extra kid in dinner, but if it’s more than that (it’s often an extra 4 plus kids) I did not provide dinner for any friends.

Whatever I planned for dinner for a family of 4 can usually accommodate a family of 5, but more than that usually means something else has to be made/bought.

I have a lot of friends, thanks for asking. I think most of you have never been the hangout house.

If you are send teens away rather than feeding meals, I’m skeptical that you are actually the teen hang out house.

I don’t know parents who are so wedded to their dinner plans that they don’t improvise, pulls stuff out of freezer, etc for more guests.

[Anonymous]

We have a group of 16-17 year olds who often migrate to our house (usually 5-6 of them.) We keep our spare fridge stocked with their favorite sodas and drinks, we keep snacks (cookies, chips, etc) stocked, and we pivot and order pizza for the group about every 2 weeks when they magically appear at our house right at dinner. With a bit of advanced notice (ie. they show up at 4pm vs 6pm) I can run to the store to get stuff to grill quickly, throw in a frozen lasagna or two, or buy a few rotisserie chickens and bagged salads for them to eat.

We have never had other parents upset for feeding them.

We love being the hangout house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course. Summer time DH would grill a fea and I would make some sides.

Did you read? Empty fridge, just home from vacation.


OP- yes I would order pizza and wings

I read. We could easily make it work. 20-30 minute trip to WF or Giant, whatever we have in freezer, plus we have sizable pantry. One of us would start prepping, get grill/flat top going while the other would grab meat, vegetables, fruit etc rom store and probably be back at the same time the other was ready to start cooking. I generally have enough in pantry for a decent dessert and would start that.

[Anonymous]

I'd feed them if it fit into our plans. I wouldn't feel the need to scrap what I was making for dinner and make something else last minute or order something. If I had no dinner plans yet and was going to get delivery or had to run out to the store anyway, I'd offer to feed them. We have plenty of options in walking/biking distance, though, and most of the time the kids (15/16 year olds) go out to eat if they want something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

So if two friends show up, you will feed one of those friends but not the other one. Got it. Totally normal. You must have a lot of friends.

lol. I thought it was obvious that I meant I would include one extra kid in dinner, but if it’s more than that (it’s often an extra 4 plus kids) I did not provide dinner for any friends.

Whatever I planned for dinner for a family of 4 can usually accommodate a family of 5, but more than that usually means something else has to be made/bought.

I have a lot of friends, thanks for asking. I think most of you have never been the hangout house.

If you are send teens away rather than feeding meals, I’m skeptical that you are actually the teen hang out house.

I don’t know parents who are so wedded to their dinner plans that they don’t improvise, pulls stuff out of freezer, etc for more guests.

Not PP but really?? You don’t know people who buy 4 steaks expecting to feed 4 people? Or plan to make something but can double it easily with freezer food? If I have no dinner plan then of course I can order pizza but I often do have specific dinner ingredients for the few nights a week I cook.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. My rule is I’ll feed one extra but any more than that usually not. They can go out and get food and ask their parents for money. Or they can eat ramen (I usually have something like that handy).

They don’t usually expect to be fed, either.

So if two friends show up, you will feed one of those friends but not the other one. Got it. Totally normal. You must have a lot of friends.

lol. I thought it was obvious that I meant I would include one extra kid in dinner, but if it’s more than that (it’s often an extra 4 plus kids) I did not provide dinner for any friends.

Whatever I planned for dinner for a family of 4 can usually accommodate a family of 5, but more than that usually means something else has to be made/bought.

I have a lot of friends, thanks for asking. I think most of you have never been the hangout house.

If you are send teens away rather than feeding meals, I’m skeptical that you are actually the teen hang out house.

I don’t know parents who are so wedded to their dinner plans that they don’t improvise, pulls stuff out of freezer, etc for more guests.

Not PP but really?? You don’t know people who buy 4 steaks expecting to feed 4 people? Or plan to make something but can double it easily with freezer food? If I have no dinner plan then of course I can order pizza but I often do have specific dinner ingredients for the few nights a week I cook.

Sure but they are not the hang out welcoming houses like the PP tried to suggest