Men are always settling

[Anonymous]

I settled. When I was singles some of the high caliber women in my orbit I didn't even bother. Some of them are still single today though strangely enough.

[Anonymous]

The way I see it if you are man you better hope the woman didn't settle to be with you. If she did she will constantly think about those check marks you didn't check. And she will use that as an excuse when the relationship goes through rough patches to dump you. Women say they don't want someone who is perfect but when you listen to them about the type of men they want they clearly want a perfect man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The way I see it if you are man you better hope the woman didn't settle to be with you. If she did she will constantly think about those check marks you didn't check. And she will use that as an excuse when the relationship goes through rough patches to dump you. Women say they don't want someone who is perfect but when you listen to them about the type of men they want they clearly want a perfect man.

I guess women have to be selective because they have more to loose. If they get pregnant from a looser they are stuck with the baby. Men can (and do) walk away from the child without much societal criticisms. Women who abandon their children are not viewed positively.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think so, but I’ve noticed that the women who were obviously settling are more likely to end up divorced than the men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you think men always settle and women don't?

It’s actually the opposite. Women settle most of the time. Men don’t often settle because they have simple and realistic expectations. An unattractive and poor man will never shoot for a top attractive girl.

Women are different. Even the ugliest ones think they are a 9/10.
When you ask most young women (poor, rich, beautiful or ugly) what they want, they would say a 666 ( a man who is at least 6 feet tall, has 6 packs and makes at least 6 figures)

They don’t realize that very few men meet these criteria (only 14% of men in the US are six feet or over. Only 17% of men in the US make 100k or more).
They all end up competing for the same few men.

The luckiest girls will end up marrying these men. All other girls will come back down to earth and settle for the average or even fat guys as long as they are nice.

That’s not what this 6 refers to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you think men always settle and women don't?

It’s actually the opposite. Women settle most of the time. Men don’t often settle because they have simple and realistic expectations. An unattractive and poor man will never shoot for a top attractive girl.

Women are different. Even the ugliest ones think they are a 9/10.
When you ask most young women (poor, rich, beautiful or ugly) what they want, they would say a 666 ( a man who is at least 6 feet tall, has 6 packs and makes at least 6 figures)

They don’t realize that very few men meet these criteria (only 14% of men in the US are six feet or over. Only 17% of men in the US make 100k or more).
They all end up competing for the same few men.

The luckiest girls will end up marrying these men. All other girls will come back down to earth and settle for the average or even fat guys as long as they are nice.

That’s not what this 6 refers to.

Women don't care about your struggles. They wait at the finish line and pick the winners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you think men always settle and women don't?

It’s actually the opposite. Women settle most of the time. Men don’t often settle because they have simple and realistic expectations. An unattractive and poor man will never shoot for a top attractive girl.

Women are different. Even the ugliest ones think they are a 9/10.
When you ask most young women (poor, rich, beautiful or ugly) what they want, they would say a 666 ( a man who is at least 6 feet tall, has 6 packs and makes at least 6 figures)

They don’t realize that very few men meet these criteria (only 14% of men in the US are six feet or over. Only 17% of men in the US make 100k or more).
They all end up competing for the same few men.

The luckiest girls will end up marrying these men. All other girls will come back down to earth and settle for the average or even fat guys as long as they are nice.

That’s not what this 6 refers to.

What does it refer to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way I see it if you are man you better hope the woman didn't settle to be with you. If she did she will constantly think about those check marks you didn't check. And she will use that as an excuse when the relationship goes through rough patches to dump you. Women say they don't want someone who is perfect but when you listen to them about the type of men they want they clearly want a perfect man.

I guess women have to be selective because they have more to loose. If they get pregnant from a looser they are stuck with the baby. Men can (and do) walk away from the child without much societal criticisms. Women who abandon their children are not viewed positively.

*lose/loser

[Anonymous]

I settled in early relationships because I was inexperienced, desperate, and horny as a young man. Once I got to my late 20’s I had a better idea of what I wanted and also had more confidence and less desperation, so I was willing to stay single longer for the right woman. After 2 years of dating I met my wife and I definitely did not settle with her.

[Anonymous]

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’s actually the opposite. Women settle most of the time. Men don’t often settle because they have simple and realistic expectations. An unattractive and poor man will never shoot for a top attractive girl.

Women are different. Even the ugliest ones think they are a 9/10.
When you ask most young women (poor, rich, beautiful or ugly) what they want, they would say a 666 ( a man who is at least 6 feet tall, has 6 packs and makes at least 6 figures)

They don’t realize that very few men meet these criteria (only 14% of men in the US are six feet or over. Only 17% of men in the US make 100k or more).
They all end up competing for the same few men.

The luckiest girls will end up marrying these men. All other girls will come back down to earth and settle for the average or even fat guys as long as they are nice.

This is one of the most accurate posts I have seen on DCUM. I think this goes back to "Women are different. Even the ugliest ones think they are a 9/10."

This translates into women thinking that because a rich, handsome man had sex with them at some point in the past, a man of that caliber would have married them. Instead, that man wanted (and got) NSA sex, and the woman got all she was going to get when they hooked up.

Sadly, almost all of the women who believed they settled got husbands who were their equals in terms of looks, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t settle, per se. Most men who have unreasonable expectations just stay single, and a large proportion of the male population is unmarriageable. Childlessness among men is on the rise. So if a man is partnered it’s a safe bet he didn’t settle.

And a large proportion of the female population is also not unmarriable?
Please.

[Anonymous]

Male here - I didn’t settle as I had enough experience and maturity to really figure out what or who would make me happy. I had a close non-romantic female friend for a few years and over time I realized she was very special in many ways. I had had more beautiful GFs but none who had all of the attributes that were important to me. After one night with her I was pretty sure it might work out. That was a very long time ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men don’t settle, per se. Most men who have unreasonable expectations just stay single, and a large proportion of the male population is unmarriageable. Childlessness among men is on the rise. So if a man is partnered it’s a safe bet he didn’t settle.

And a large proportion of the female population is also not unmarriable?
Please.

Very few women end up childless except by choice or physical circumstance. Many men do. So while men and women may be marriageable at similar rates (though that’s doubtful given the rates at which men graduate college, etc) women do not need marriage to have children so it’s less relevant.

[Anonymous]

I definitely do not see any men who have settled. They tend to end up in the situations they deserve, good or bad.