Money you regret spending

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Therapy/Counseling. I think it made the problem worse and focused too much on the problems my kid was having and worrying about. Talking about it from different angles, discussing what could be done differently, etc. ended up putting way too much focus on negativity. I think it was slowly making my child feel like there was something intrinsically wrong with him. I don't think you can build self-esteem by just talking about it. It comes from actually doing things.

We were paying out of pocket $170 for a 45 minute session so that was $680 a month. Instead we took a break one month and I got my son private sports lessons three times a week for the month. So those 12 lessons cost 60 dollars each = $720, so for about the same as counseling which my son didn't particularly enjoy.

My son loved the private lessons, and after that month he had the confidence and some skills to join a new activity. He kept at it and paying for private lessons once or twice a week plus the cost of the team activity was still cheaper than $680. And interestingly enough the private sports coach was far more motivational and insightful than the therapist ever was about confronting fears and challenges.

ha, same! my kid loves 1:1 sports coaching and gets a ton out of it. there are a lot of really talented coaches out there.

[Anonymous]

We used an advocate who was fine at first because our child's needs at the time were similar to her child's in the past. The next time we hired her though, she was stuck in thinking she knew what was best for our child so even when we came to an agreement with the school, she pushed her own agenda while charging us. her ideas were outdated based on over a decade before when her son was our child's age. Luckily, we went with what we and other professionals thought best and years later I can say parting ways was the best choice we ever made because the second time we hired her she wasted our money and ran the clock to profit calling a second meeting when we were fine with what was established at the first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We used an advocate who was fine at first because our child's needs at the time were similar to her child's in the past. The next time we hired her though, she was stuck in thinking she knew what was best for our child so even when we came to an agreement with the school, she pushed her own agenda while charging us. her ideas were outdated based on over a decade before when her son was our child's age. Luckily, we went with what we and other professionals thought best and years later I can say parting ways was the best choice we ever made because the second time we hired her she wasted our money and ran the clock to profit calling a second meeting when we were fine with what was established at the first.

Ugh. I briefly worked with a practitioner like this who had her own agenda and seemed to want to push for me to see the school as “unsafe” and homeschool my kid. It was creepy.