How long to wait for proposal

[Anonymous]

Why are you sitting around waiting for a proposal? You should have had a discussion n about whether or not you both want marriage and if you see that with each other. If you do what's the time line? From that point on you're engaged, set a date. Sitting around waiting for him to jump ou of a bush with a ring is idiotic.

[Anonymous]

6 months to discuss the future/intentions/move in
1 year to get the ring and set a date

[Anonymous]

Talk to him, he probably doesn't realize you are waiting on him to make this commitment to you. Don't waste any more time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:0 days. If you are 35 and want marriage and kids you should have discussed that in the first 3-5 dates. Not necessarily whether he saw a future with you, but if that’s where he sees his future. At 3-6 months you should discuss if it’s in the future for the two of you. If it is, he needs to propose before your 36th birthday or your 1 year anniversary. Which ever is first.

If you break up with him, you need to freeze your eggs before you are 37, while you date.

Agreed. Better to be upfront about what you are looking for. Sure it will be a turn off to some men, but those men are the types that would likely string you along because they aren't interested in marriage in the near future.

[Anonymous]

I met my husband at 32. I had said we need to know if we’re moving ahead by six months. At six months, he surprised me with a proposal. At ten months, we were married. I was 33. That was over 38 years ago. Still married.

[Anonymous]

Why are you waiting for him to decide to propose? Men don’t think like women. They don’t think about infertility or time. Open up the discussion and see where he stands and make a decision. Privately. So what if you don’t have an instagram proposal moment. Women need to grow up on this point. Talk like adults, make a decision, move forward. If you’re really smart, you’ll put the money that would have gone into a ring into real estate.

[Anonymous]

I asked his best friend when we were all together / tipsy if he thought he was serious about me at 7 months and he said he had already been ring shopping. The actual proposal didn't come until a year after that but apparently he had been carrying the ring around and planned to do it a few times and chickened out. If I hadn't had that info I would have asked him about it at a year.