Why have 3+ kids if you can’t afford a babysitter?

[Anonymous]

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Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

You're supposed to have a nanny on retainer just in case you have to go somewhere for a weekend?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

We don't have a Nanny, obviously. I'm not hiring a stranger to watch my kids for multiple days straight and overnight. I don't think you get this isn't a money thing. This is a safety thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

They walk 5 abreast everywhere they go clogging aisles in grocery stores, Costco, sidewalks, etc. it would never occur to them to have one parent shop and the other stay home. It’s a big event.

[Anonymous]

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What? Going through flying with two kids, just to have them sit in a hotel room, with a stranger, to attend some stupid wedding... is utterly absurd. DP.

Have you considered leaving them at home with someone?

People want to spend their PTO and weekends with their kids, not traveling to a boring wedding.

It’s very easy to say no. Likely these people are a required invite like a weird cousin the parents made them invite. The bride and groom don’t really want them to come and certainly don’t want them to show up with uninvited kids.

And that is what posters are saying, that they won't go. It is not worth the hassle knowing your invite is probably just a gift grab anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

We don't have a Nanny, obviously. I'm not hiring a stranger to watch my kids for multiple days straight and overnight. I don't think you get this isn't a money thing. This is a safety thing.

It’s a money thing. For sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

They walk 5 abreast everywhere they go clogging aisles in grocery stores, Costco, sidewalks, etc. it would never occur to them to have one parent shop and the other stay home. It’s a big event.

You don't want them to bring the kids in public but you will also be the first to complain if they never learn how to behave in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

We don't have a Nanny, obviously. I'm not hiring a stranger to watch my kids for multiple days straight and overnight. I don't think you get this isn't a money thing. This is a safety thing.

It’s a money thing. For sure.

Sure, at no price point am I doing this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

They walk 5 abreast everywhere they go clogging aisles in grocery stores, Costco, sidewalks, etc. it would never occur to them to have one parent shop and the other stay home. It’s a big event.

You don't want them to bring the kids in public but you will also be the first to complain if they never learn how to behave in public.

Well you won’t teach them because you clog the aisles and are oblivious to everyone around you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

We don't have a Nanny, obviously. I'm not hiring a stranger to watch my kids for multiple days straight and overnight. I don't think you get this isn't a money thing. This is a safety thing.

It’s a money thing. For sure.

Sure, at no price point am I doing this.

Because you’re broke. We know.

[Anonymous]

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I make 500K a year, I can afford a babysitter. I'm not dragging my kids on a flight to sit for hours without us in a strange town, strange room with someone we don't know. To fly back the next day. Pure insanity.

I would go if we could all enjoy the event together and spend time with family.

What’s insane is that you think you need to be dragging your kids everywhere.

I don’t believe for a second that you make 500k.

I have been all over the world with my kid I had at 25. We had a blast together. Wouldn't have wanted it any other way and I traveled extensively, lived and worked abroad in multiple places before having kids.

[Anonymous]

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And that is what posters are saying, that they won't go. It is not worth the hassle knowing your invite is probably just a gift grab anyway.

Whatever you tell yourself.
A wedding? It’s just a gift grab.
A football party? Surely a bunch of drinking men won’t mind my four cute kids hanging around and bouncing off the walls.
A poker night? Surely a bunch of drinking adults won’t mind my kids mingling, they are so adorable.

No, they’re not. No, nobody wants a o mingle with your kids, they need to be at home. If you can’t afford to be alone without your kids for a second, maybe you can’t afford the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

They walk 5 abreast everywhere they go clogging aisles in grocery stores, Costco, sidewalks, etc. it would never occur to them to have one parent shop and the other stay home. It’s a big event.

A trip to Costco probably counts as a family entertainment event AND a free lunch (samples).

[Anonymous]

Nothing to do with money. My oldest is old enough to "babysit" the younger two, but we still typically bring at least one kid with us. They like it, we like it, it's how we roll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Like who? Most people in DC, like us, have no family here. I would not trust a complete stranger to watch my kids for several days.

It’s called a nanny.

Do you just go everywhere together? Like a gypsy tribe?

What a circus.

They walk 5 abreast everywhere they go clogging aisles in grocery stores, Costco, sidewalks, etc. it would never occur to them to have one parent shop and the other stay home. It’s a big event.

Why are you annoyed or angered by seeing these large families?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They assume that all spaces are child friendly because the kind of people who want lots of kids genuinely like having kids everywhere. The people who believe some spaces/events should be childfree and regularly get babysitters are usually not having tons of kids.

Why do you assume it’s appropriate to bring kids everywhere? It’s not. It’s not appropriate to bring them to adult events.

Even bringing five people into someone’s waiting room is inappropriate in my opinion.

Or do you gave difficulties separating yourself from children?

I don’t have three kids actually. I was making the observation that there are people (like you) who think there are social spaces children shouldn’t be welcome and also people (like many parents of 3+) who don’t. Honestly it’s probably better if the two groups don’t socialize.