IVF - what do you wish you'd known before you started

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was really glad we did shared risk, since it took away the financial impact of failure. This was before there was any Fed insurance coverage. My husband was in charge of all the shots and mixing meds, which really helped (I only did my own shots on work travel).

IMHO, the stress of infertility was worse than when I had breast cancer a few years later. I am glad I made it through both experiences and wish you the best!

Can you share which Fed insurance covers IVF?

DP. BCBS Standard

[Anonymous]

That all IVF pregnancies are (at least) medium risk pregnancies, higher rates of C-section (50%), they want the baby out on the due date

RE ability is *extremely* uneven, the typical RE does not keep on top of the literature

80% of REs will blame IVF failure on egg quality, which may or may not be the case. I know somebody who was talked into egg donor, burned though all the embryos, oopsies there's male and uterine factors

[Anonymous]

The whole process is stressful. From the first blood draw and then if you are lucky enough to give birth to a healthy baby. Going to blood draws before work, finding out your numbers, waiting for the pregnancy test, finding out if you hGc numbers are doubling, the heart rate of the fetus. It’s not an easy process. It’s causes stress and anxiety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The whole process is stressful. From the first blood draw and then if you are lucky enough to give birth to a healthy baby. Going to blood draws before work, finding out your numbers, waiting for the pregnancy test, finding out if you hGc numbers are doubling, the heart rate of the fetus. It’s not an easy process. It’s causes stress and anxiety.

Agree with this. Incredibly stressful. We only got one embryo and I now have a 4 year old from it, so feel extremely lucky but the whole process was so stressful, even the pregnancy and birth.

[Anonymous]

Most likely you won't be successful on the first try