Urgent Contact - Dorothy Hamm Parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is the OP going to get the parents’ contact info from her child’s phone? Most kids aren’t even listed with their real names in the phone or social media, let alone a full name that traces back to a parent.

DC required to put full names of friends in their phone and add parent contact number to the notes section as well. If they don’t then they don’t communicate with them.

Well that’s easy when you have no friends.

[Anonymous]

OP, you sound unhinged. Since you're new, here's some info on DHMS and the parent community: it's a lot of busy, high-income dual professional households who are not interested in making contact with an odd-ball mom no one has ever heard of. Once they hear you have an agenda, they will really exclude you, and your child. If it's really an issue of safety, I would report it to the school and let them deal with it. Worry about your own DC and move on.

[Anonymous]

Truth be told, I am a DHMS parent and if the principal, Ms E Smith, contacted me individually about anything I would follow up because I trust her competence. You, OP, are coming off as a total weirdo with this anonymous post on DCUM. I believe your story isn’t correct or you misunderstand the situation. I suspect you didn’t communicate correctly (as with this post) to Ms E Smith or you didn’t understand her communication back (as with this post). Regardless, PP is correct that it’s dual income professionals for the most part but this is a very engaged parent community who aren’t going to ignore some REAL issue. It sounds to me like you have some things going on in your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Truth be told, I am a DHMS parent and if the principal, Ms E Smith, contacted me individually about anything I would follow up because I trust her competence. You, OP, are coming off as a total weirdo with this anonymous post on DCUM. I believe your story isn’t correct or you misunderstand the situation. I suspect you didn’t communicate correctly (as with this post) to Ms E Smith or you didn’t understand her communication back (as with this post). Regardless, PP is correct that it’s dual income professionals for the most part but this is a very engaged parent community who aren’t going to ignore some REAL issue. It sounds to me like you have some things going on in your head.

Third scenario: these other parents do know you and/or your child and are purposefully avoiding you. Again, totally understandable.

[Anonymous]

Ummmm...there's absolutely an online student directory. It includes grade, TA, parents names and addresses and phone numbers, if the parent opted in. Not everyone opts in, but enough do that i was able to identify my 6th grade son's friends and invite them over. And all of those parents were absolutely fine to talk with. Not the same as our elementary cohort of parents who have known each other for a decade, but I haven't found a parent yet who won't reply to me? Something is weird here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Truth be told, I am a DHMS parent and if the principal, Ms E Smith, contacted me individually about anything I would follow up because I trust her competence. You, OP, are coming off as a total weirdo with this anonymous post on DCUM. I believe your story isn’t correct or you misunderstand the situation. I suspect you didn’t communicate correctly (as with this post) to Ms E Smith or you didn’t understand her communication back (as with this post). Regardless, PP is correct that it’s dual income professionals for the most part but this is a very engaged parent community who aren’t going to ignore some REAL issue. It sounds to me like you have some things going on in your head.

Third scenario: these other parents do know you and/or your child and are purposefully avoiding you. Again, totally understandable.

Bingo. Exactly what’s going on here. They’re avoiding your crazy on purpose OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why can't you just ask your daughter what their last names are?"

Because they did something very bad and the parents have to know before the children understand that their parents will be notified.

Sigh.

1. Get the last names from your kid.

2. Fire up the Google Machine and find contact information for the parents.

3. Call or email them.

4. Be careful not to violate what seems to be the inevitable restraining order(s) they file against you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is the OP going to get the parents’ contact info from her child’s phone? Most kids aren’t even listed with their real names in the phone or social media, let alone a full name that traces back to a parent.

DC required to put full names of friends in their phone and add parent contact number to the notes section as well. If they don’t then they don’t communicate with them.

Teenagers do this? I’m imagining those conversations. “ I need your mom’s cell number and full name or I can’t text you”. Most would put a random name and phone number and continue on their hidden snap or insta account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is the OP going to get the parents’ contact info from her child’s phone? Most kids aren’t even listed with their real names in the phone or social media, let alone a full name that traces back to a parent.

DC required to put full names of friends in their phone and add parent contact number to the notes section as well. If they don’t then they don’t communicate with them.

Teenagers do this? I’m imagining those conversations. “ I need your mom’s cell number and full name or I can’t text you”. Most would put a random name and phone number and continue on their hidden snap or insta account.

+1

Plus kids do NOT text. They use other apps. They are placating this PP by putting in names of people they aren't worried about their parents knowing about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is the OP going to get the parents’ contact info from her child’s phone? Most kids aren’t even listed with their real names in the phone or social media, let alone a full name that traces back to a parent.

DC required to put full names of friends in their phone and add parent contact number to the notes section as well. If they don’t then they don’t communicate with them.

Teenagers do this? I’m imagining those conversations. “ I need your mom’s cell number and full name or I can’t text you”. Most would put a random name and phone number and continue on their hidden snap or insta account.

I ask my kid for their friend's parent's name and cell phone # before they go over to their house. Kid asks their friend who has had no problem with it then gives it to me. I want to know the name and have contact info for someone supervising my kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Why can't you just ask your daughter what their last names are?"

Because they did something very bad and the parents have to know before the children understand that their parents will be notified.

Why?

[Anonymous]

I read all the posts but I don’t understand why OP needs to contact other parents.

OP said “I'm in a bit of a bind as I am aware of behavior regarding my daughter and two of her friends that the other parents need to be aware of.”

Behavior regarding the three girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Why can't you just ask your daughter what their last names are?"

Because they did something very bad and the parents have to know before the children understand that their parents will be notified.

Sigh.

1. Get the last names from your kid.

2. Fire up the Google Machine and find contact information for the parents.

3. Call or email them.

4. Be careful not to violate what seems to be the inevitable restraining order(s) they file against you.

Congrats on making this funny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I read all the posts but I don’t understand why OP needs to contact other parents.

OP said “I'm in a bit of a bind as I am aware of behavior regarding my daughter and two of her friends that the other parents need to be aware of.”

Behavior regarding the three girls?

Drinking, drugs, sex, boys, shoplifting, bullying, online predators. I see no shortage of possibilities for OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"You don't want to involve the school yet you've spoken to the principal? Seems like you HAVE involved the school."

I have not told the school what happened. Believe me, it adds up. The principle understood as it involves behavior outside school. I also spoke with my attorney to ensure I am approaching this appropriately.

OP, I don't have any answers for you, but I can't believe some of these responses. If you have an involved an attorney, it must be serious. Good luck to you. I am not a Dorothy Hamm parent, but I think all APS schools use the same online PTA directory, searchable by first name as well as last. You can probably narrow your daughter's friends down that way.