My DE kids are teens - AMA

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OP: How did you select your DE donor? Was it thru a IVF medical center? What kind of information was provided to you, were you able to ask questions. Could you describe the process?

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Do you follow or read any of the discussions or social media accounts focused on donor-conceived individuals?

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I was curious if you go thru a facility like Shady Grove, how information is provided to the recipient, and how the information is vetted. It’s not clear thru the feeds of experiences I read online. Have not yet joined any FB groups, just searches here and Reddit.

[Anonymous]

I'm happy for you, OP! No questions. You have a beautiful family.

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Anonymous wrote:Did your twins ever get teased or treated differently by other kids or families due to their DE status? Was it ever a thing? I have a DE child; I worry sometimes not so much about my own kid, with whom I have a very close connection, but how other kids might treat my child as 'different' ?

Op here. My kids' friends and our casual acquaintances don't know the kids' DE origins. In fact I didn't tell my parents because I worried they would not accept them. Both of my parents passed away without knowing, but they absolutely adored their three grandsons.

NP here also with one OE and one DE kid. I love both my kids equally but the DE kid looks a lot like the egg donor and takes after my DH while the OE kid looks like me. I marvel at seeing my face in my OE kid's face and I miss not seeing that in my DE kid but I tell myself that he could have easily taken after his dad facially. Like PP we never told the grandparents for the same reasons. DE kid knows that "another lady helped us" as we were taught to do during the required counseling so that there is never a bombshell moment. He also knows that this is private medical information that we don't reveal to other people.

Shouldn't that really be his call, not yours?

Agreed, this poster doesn’t seem to have a healthy attitude

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Anonymous wrote:Did your twins ever get teased or treated differently by other kids or families due to their DE status? Was it ever a thing? I have a DE child; I worry sometimes not so much about my own kid, with whom I have a very close connection, but how other kids might treat my child as 'different' ?

Op here. My kids' friends and our casual acquaintances don't know the kids' DE origins. In fact I didn't tell my parents because I worried they would not accept them. Both of my parents passed away without knowing, but they absolutely adored their three grandsons.

NP here also with one OE and one DE kid. I love both my kids equally but the DE kid looks a lot like the egg donor and takes after my DH while the OE kid looks like me. I marvel at seeing my face in my OE kid's face and I miss not seeing that in my DE kid but I tell myself that he could have easily taken after his dad facially. Like PP we never told the grandparents for the same reasons. DE kid knows that "another lady helped us" as we were taught to do during the required counseling so that there is never a bombshell moment. He also knows that this is private medical information that we don't reveal to other people.

Shouldn't that really be his call, not yours?

Agreed, this poster doesn’t seem to have a healthy attitude

I am not sure why you think it's unhealthy to confirm to your child that you won't reveal their personal medical information to other people.

She isn't instructing him "now Timmy, we don't tell people about your background."

[Anonymous]

OP, did you try to find a donor that looked like you in order to prevent the issue of children looking less like you?

[Anonymous]

I reached out to eggdonationfrriends, their team is very knowledgeable and will support me during the journey.