Are and your seniors stressed?

[Anonymous]

Yes, relatively stressed in our house but trying to distract ourselves. Waiting for at least one good RD to come through and many end of the year projects to finish.

[Anonymous]

Senioritis and soiling the nest. Plus, her friends are coupling up and she's not. It is not pleasant.

[Anonymous]

I think we’re all married to the same guy!!

[Anonymous]

He was accepted EA to his top choice in December, so he's not stressed at all - there was never any doubt he would attend if accepted. I'm a wreck, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we’re all married to the same guy!!

So glad I'm not alone. Wish we could meet up for drinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think we’re all married to the same guy!!

Lol. I'm a different poster, and I agree. Glad to hear I'm not alone. He eventually comes around but it takes a while.

[Anonymous]

There is always stress with my child. Not even sure she should be going to a 4 year, so everything is stress inducing for us as her parents.

She has 4 acceptances, and one is ruled out due to distance. But now she got into her “dream school” but the current scholarship offer doesn’t bring the cost down quite enough.

We have to finish filing our FAFSA but this also happens to be the year our computer with our tax info died on us. No, we don’t have paper backup. So, that’s fun.

One of the schools has already extended to June 1 and I have a feeling her other 2 will too, so hopefully that works in our favor.

[Anonymous]

I am not a big legacy person, but if the school I attended doesn't admit my kid (it's a middle of the road school) I am having a bon fire for my swag.

Please accept my less than rational response/revenge fantasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not a big legacy person, but if the school I attended doesn't admit my kid (it's a middle of the road school) I am having a bon fire for my swag.

Please accept my less than rational response/revenge fantasy.

It's easy to mock this, but I felt this way too, even though my alma mater was DS's "safety" and I knew he wouldn't attend if his top choice came through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is always stress with my child. Not even sure she should be going to a 4 year, so everything is stress inducing for us as her parents.

She has 4 acceptances, and one is ruled out due to distance. But now she got into her “dream school” but the current scholarship offer doesn’t bring the cost down quite enough.

We have to finish filing our FAFSA but this also happens to be the year our computer with our tax info died on us. No, we don’t have paper backup. So, that’s fun.

One of the schools has already extended to June 1 and I have a feeling her other 2 will too, so hopefully that works in our favor.

What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. Stressed about how to make a decision and anticipating spouse and I won’t agree (DC and I tend to agree).

This is me, too! DH has strong opinions and in my mind, those opinions have flimsy rationale. So I fear we are heading for a lot more stress before May 1!

DP. IS your DH like mine? Not a very involved parent, but then feels guilty and decides that being "involved" is weighing in on major decisions (usually in opposition to something from me) without any research or much context on the kid (because does not spend much time with the kid). My DH was like "I don't think School X would be good for Kid." Did he visit School X? No. Talked to any students from School X? Has he even looked at School X's web page? No. Kid and I visited. He doesn't even know all the classes kid is taking right now. Gah. Drives me nuts!

Oh gosh. I could have written this too. My kids (twins) are just juniors but this has been the story of our parenting relationship for as long as we've been parents.
I do the research, grunt work, appointments, meetings, front-facing time with the kids (which is exhausting because now as teens they question everything). He comes in, gives a snap opinion and it's often the opposite because it's based on nothing. I do believe he means well but it's maddening. MADDENING. He's not an a$$ and he comes around an is open to learning but it's exhausting.

So pretty much the last step to any decision the kids have made (or we've made for the kids) is getting through this internal roadblock (their father). As if the figuring out the outside world wasn't hard enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is always stress with my child. Not even sure she should be going to a 4 year, so everything is stress inducing for us as her parents.

She has 4 acceptances, and one is ruled out due to distance. But now she got into her “dream school” but the current scholarship offer doesn’t bring the cost down quite enough.

We have to finish filing our FAFSA but this also happens to be the year our computer with our tax info died on us. No, we don’t have paper backup. So, that’s fun.

One of the schools has already extended to June 1 and I have a feeling her other 2 will too, so hopefully that works in our favor.

What does this mean?

It means it is just too far from home and in a location difficult to access. Personal preference. If it were the cheapest school on her list, maybe we’d still be pursuing it, but it just isn’t worth it with her other choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup. Stressed about how to make a decision and anticipating spouse and I won’t agree (DC and I tend to agree).

This is me, too! DH has strong opinions and in my mind, those opinions have flimsy rationale. So I fear we are heading for a lot more stress before May 1!

DP. IS your DH like mine? Not a very involved parent, but then feels guilty and decides that being "involved" is weighing in on major decisions (usually in opposition to something from me) without any research or much context on the kid (because does not spend much time with the kid). My DH was like "I don't think School X would be good for Kid." Did he visit School X? No. Talked to any students from School X? Has he even looked at School X's web page? No. Kid and I visited. He doesn't even know all the classes kid is taking right now. Gah. Drives me nuts!

Oh gosh. I could have written this too. My kids (twins) are just juniors but this has been the story of our parenting relationship for as long as we've been parents.
I do the research, grunt work, appointments, meetings, front-facing time with the kids (which is exhausting because now as teens they question everything). He comes in, gives a snap opinion and it's often the opposite because it's based on nothing. I do believe he means well but it's maddening. MADDENING. He's not an a$$ and he comes around an is open to learning but it's exhausting.

So pretty much the last step to any decision the kids have made (or we've made for the kids) is getting through this internal roadblock (their father). As if the figuring out the outside world wasn't hard enough.

LOL last year DH was not involved at all except to go along on a few tours and then late in the process got this idea that DD should be looking more at urban schools vs. the rural schools she liked. That ship has sailed. She saw one urban option, hated it, and swore she would never go to college in a city (environmental science major who is happiest in the woods). She's happy at her small, middle-of-nowhere college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not a big legacy person, but if the school I attended doesn't admit my kid (it's a middle of the road school) I am having a bon fire for my swag.

Please accept my less than rational response/revenge fantasy.

I love you, this made me laugh out loud.

[Anonymous]

My senior would be happy at any of the schools he has been accepted to so far.

He has a clear favorite after attending 3 admitted students days. I have another favorite but I’m not the one attending so I’m going to encourage him to accept the offer he wants once he’s heard back and considered any other acceptances. He’s not expecting any other targets or reaches though since this is RD and he’s not a URM or institutional priority.