Do Women Like To Be Told They're Beautiful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about some random man's opinion of me. I don't want him assessing me. He should keep his thoughts to himself.

My husband? He can tell me.

This.

And op, 15 year olds are not women and you should not be speaking to them period unless you are a 15 year old boy and then you can call your girlfriend beautiful.

[Anonymous]

Only if it's true.

[Anonymous]

I love receiving a genuine compliment from anyone, including my husband of course.

Catcalling is not the same. That has a power dynamic that makes it horrible.

But a man or a woman simply telling me I’m
beautiful? I’ll take it—with gratitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, ALL women love to be told how beautiful they are…

But only by those they love most especially.
Not random men or people w/an agenda! 😠

And my personal opinion is that especially women over the age of 55+ love being told this because after 55+, many women may feel as if they are invisible or just not attractive anymore.

(Unless they are J Lo who will be 55 this summer and looks 100000x better than she did at 25!)

JLo looks older than 55.
She looks 70 to me. :/

She actually doesn't look 70. I've seen her in person and her skin was stunning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love receiving a genuine compliment from anyone, including my husband of course.

Catcalling is not the same. That has a power dynamic that makes it horrible.

But a man or a woman simply telling me I’m
beautiful? I’ll take it—with gratitude.

I’ve had people, men an women, complement you look nice, or I love your necklace or something similar. It’s nice to be noticed. Most are sincere not cheesy or flirting. It feels nice. Puts a smile on my face.

I’ll take it—with gratitude.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately women are judged a lot by men based solely on their look. So it's not surprising that many have low self esteem as a result.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care about some random man's opinion of me. I don't want him assessing me. He should keep his thoughts to himself.

My husband? He can tell me.

This. My 16 yo said it to me yesterday and I felt happy. I've been told that all my life, but it means more when I hear it from dh or children. I know they mean it and they want nothing from me.
-52yo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I'm just trying to live my life. I don't want unsolicited assessments of my looks, good or bad.

Also, honestly? It's so unoriginal. Notice something else.

But not my striking blue eyes. They barely escape notice and comments.

[Anonymous]

It’s especially irritating when you’re 60 and a male waiter will refer to you and a friend as “lovely young ladies.” We know we are neither and don’t get some deluded Blanche Devereaux thrill from hearing otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Context is everything.

I’m not beautiful at all, but I’m approachable pretty. My husband hasn’t complimented my appearance more than twice in twenty years but random men comment all the time. I also make the good ones uncomfortable even when I’m just trying to be normal. And if there is a creep in the group, they will proposition me. Literally. I’m not 55 yet.

I think the problem is not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It’s especially irritating when you’re 60 and a male waiter will refer to you and a friend as “lovely young ladies.” We know we are neither and don’t get some deluded Blanche Devereaux thrill from hearing otherwise.

He's not concerned about you. He wants to charm people with amiable attitudes who give nice tips.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love receiving a genuine compliment from anyone, including my husband of course.

Catcalling is not the same. That has a power dynamic that makes it horrible.

But a man or a woman simply telling me I’m
beautiful? I’ll take it—with gratitude.

When is it catcalling? When a stranger does it? A poor person,?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love receiving a genuine compliment from anyone, including my husband of course.

Catcalling is not the same. That has a power dynamic that makes it horrible.

But a man or a woman simply telling me I’m
beautiful? I’ll take it—with gratitude.

I’ve had people, men an women, complement you look nice, or I love your necklace or something similar. It’s nice to be noticed. Most are sincere not cheesy or flirting. It feels nice. Puts a smile on my face.

I’ll take it—with gratitude.

I am a woman who answered I absolutely do not want some rando to tell me I look beautiful. Fwiw, I compliment people all the time, including for things that are related to appearance. I compliment earrings, a great vintage sweater, a pop of color, an ability to put together a great outfit (a skill I don’t have but wish I did). But these are about choices they make — active things —so it feels less objectifying.

And also I’m a middle-aged mom.

I mostly compliment other things, though. Just yesterday, I said to a barista I see regularly, “you have the best energy. I always feel a little uplift after I get my coffee.” Things like that.