Do any local Catholic Churches still have most families dressing nice for Mass?

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Anonymous wrote:First time at Mass in many years. Struck by how casual families dress. Growing up, all the men were in sport coats and gals in dresses. Mass was an occasion. And then we’d get breakfast afterwards dressed in our ‘Sunday best’. Is this casual dresscode now the norm at every church? I honestly don’t like it. It blunts the optics of church, to me.

I certainly hope so.

Church is about worship and learning to be the best Christians we can be. It isn't a fashion show, so if you are upset that people's casual clothing "blunts the optics" then perhaps you have some soul searching to do.

No one exists, or gets dressed, to satisfy your eyes.

x1000000

A freaking men.

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Anonymous wrote:People are dressed very well at the Basilica of St Mary in Old Town. I usually wear a dress, skirt, or nice pants and my husband wears a jacket and dress pants. Most of the people around us are similarly dressed.

Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, sounds like you haven’t made mass a priority over the past few years. No need to pass judgment on those who come every week. We are there doing the best we can. At our church, the focus is on God, not what other people are wearing.

I'm not passing judgment, I'm simply trying to find a Catholic Church I think would be a better fit for our family. I now realize I value the aesthetics of families around me dressed a little more elevated is all, if that's even an option these days.

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Anonymous wrote:Life used to be a much slower pace. For many people, Mass was their Sunday activity. So you got dressed up for it, went out after, etc. For most families, this is no longer a reasonable expectation. Mass is one of the many things happening on a Sunday. The Church is smart enough to welcome anyone with open arms, regardless of what they are wearing. They desperately need young parishioners.

Oh please. People aren’t that busy on Sundays, at least with anything of note. If anything they just go shopping more since everything is open. Stores used to be closed on Sundays.

Actually travel soccer has crept into Sunday morning too. The kid stuff is relentless.

This is sadly true. Travel sports craziness is the new God to tens of millions of MC and UMC families.

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You dress nicely, not nice. Or you dress casually, not casual. Do any Catholics still write properly these days?

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Anonymous wrote:You dress nicely, not nice. Or you dress casually, not casual. Do any Catholics still write properly these days?

I used the proper word (nicely), but I'm a former Catholic.

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Anonymous wrote:Do American families dress nice for anything today?

Country club

Fascinating that country clubs can enforce a business casual dress code but Catholic mass can’t?

Country clubs can enforce dress codes because they are happy to turn people away. That's not something the Catholic church is going to do.

I wasn’t being literal. Families can dress nice to go have a few hours of leisure at a country club—often a couple times a week—but can’t for 55 minutes of Sunday mass?

Where is there a Catholic country club? Why do you assume it's all the same people?

Lots of crossover.

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Anonymous wrote:This is one of the pros about being Catholic. I grew up in a Protestant church where I had to wear a dress and pantyhose.

In Catholicism the important thing is that you go every single Sunday. If that means you're showing up in scrubs on your way home from a 13 hours, or stopping by a random church between two games at a soccer tournament, or whatever, God is glad to see you there.

+100. I absolutely love this about Catholic Mass.

I mean, who are you even fooling? God knows we’re all messy sinners inside. That’s why we’re there. Not all Catholics are regular mass attenders but there a more that go weekly than in Protestant churches. Church feels like home to us - not some fancy occasion that requires a special dress code.

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Anonymous wrote:People are dressed very well at the Basilica of St Mary in Old Town. I usually wear a dress, skirt, or nice pants and my husband wears a jacket and dress pants. Most of the people around us are similarly dressed.

Thank you.

It's called respect! what is wrong with you slobs!

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Anonymous wrote:Do American families dress nice for anything today?

Country club

Fascinating that country clubs can enforce a business casual dress code but Catholic mass can’t?

Country clubs can enforce dress codes because they are happy to turn people away. That's not something the Catholic church is going to do.

I wasn’t being literal. Families can dress nice to go have a few hours of leisure at a country club—often a couple times a week—but can’t for 55 minutes of Sunday mass?

Where is there a Catholic country club? Why do you assume it's all the same people?

Congressional Country Club is very Catholic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You dress nicely, not nice. Or you dress casually, not casual. Do any Catholics still write properly these days?

I used the proper word (nicely), but I'm a former Catholic.

Yes, this was aimed at OP. I noted and appreciated your correct use of an adverb.

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Anonymous wrote:First time at Mass in many years. Struck by how casual families dress. Growing up, all the men were in sport coats and gals in dresses. Mass was an occasion. And then we’d get breakfast afterwards dressed in our ‘Sunday best’. Is this casual dresscode now the norm at every church? I honestly don’t like it. It blunts the optics of church, to me.

How old are you Grandma?

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Anonymous wrote:I am not Catholic but I've participated in 3 fashion threads lately where I've been flamed for suggesting that tweens and 20s-aged women look for dresses that cover the shoulder, don't have cleavage, and hit just above the knees. What I derive from this, is that mainstream casual and date dresses without sleeves (can put cardigan over), V-necklines, and mid-thigh hems are acceptable to a lot of moms.

You’re not being flamed because it’s conservative you’re being flamed because it’s ugly

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Anonymous wrote:Do American families dress nice for anything today?

Country club

Fascinating that country clubs can enforce a business casual dress code but Catholic mass can’t?

They don’t pay taxes just like churches.

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Anonymous wrote:Life used to be a much slower pace. For many people, Mass was their Sunday activity. So you got dressed up for it, went out after, etc. For most families, this is no longer a reasonable expectation. Mass is one of the many things happening on a Sunday. The Church is smart enough to welcome anyone with open arms, regardless of what they are wearing. They desperately need young parishioners.

Oh please. People aren’t that busy on Sundays, at least with anything of note. If anything they just go shopping more since everything is open. Stores used to be closed on Sundays.

Actually travel soccer has crept into Sunday morning too. The kid stuff is relentless.

This is sadly true. Travel sports craziness is the new God to tens of millions of MC and UMC families.

The body is a temple exercise is important