You’re right! I gave up my career to take care of my child and elderly mother. I deserve to be shunned for such a sin. |
I love how our society is at the point now where women caring about and being interested in their own kids more than anything else is not seen as completely and utterly normal, but is instead considered laughable and pathetic. And yet we wonder why everyone is so angry and unhappy. |
| I hate when people talk about their kids. It’s exhausting. No one but maybe grandma cares. |
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I can talk to anybody about anything and would totally egg her on.
Oh really? He hit a triple? Is his girlfriend cute? Are you going to let him take his car next semester? Are his grades ok? Does he like his major? |
Agreed. I have to do everything in my power not to roll my eyes. |
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Such a bunch of intolerant haters on this thread. Apparently if you're the least bit different from them, and fail to have exactly the same lifestyle and personality, they will roll their eyes at you, call you unattractive and complain about your proclivities on DCUM. Shame on you. |
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It sounds like she never bothered to develop an identity outside of DC's mom. Her entire world revoked around making sure he was in the right, school, classes, sports and excelling so he could get into the right college. She probably spent her time comparing notes with other moms and now that he's off to college she has no idea what to do with herself. She's taken up yoga to try and fill her time but has no idea how to have a normal adult conversation that isn't about comparing not.
You can try to steer the conversation in a different direction. Or you could playfully mention you could stalk him with all you learned and maybe she'll get the hint. |
Or not. I miss my girl but I can talk about other things. |
How would she steer a conversation she isn't part of |
| Who cares? I’d rather hear about someone’s kid than their boring desk job, their thoughts on Trump, what they ate for lunch, or several other topics I can think of that I hear discussed but am not particularly interested in |
This is true. Despite being passionate about politics and sharing similar views to my community, I don't enjoy hearing about it unless it's something very novel. I do put up with my parents droning on about politics because I know they enjoy it but that probably decreases my tolerance to hearing it from anyone else. |
Gosh, I don't even know my own son's college grades. |
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OP, i get it and would be similarly perplexed. I envy anyone who is unbothered by this sort of thing because they a) don’t even notice; b) notice but easily tune out and carry on; or 3) notice but are not bothered because they have total compassion for their fellow humans.
Unfortunately, I also “need” to understand how the offending speaker can have so little regard for those held hostage in conversation hell. IMO, your yoga mate doesn’t sound like a sweet, benign, empty nester who simply misses her son. People like that are not irritating. In fact, they’re very likeable - who doesn’t love a parent’s genuinely loving story about their child? No, this is different. Your person likely spent years gassing on about a variety of topics, ultimately landed on child-related monologues because they put her in the best light and she has an unlimited amount of source material. Good luck and Namaste! |
How annoying to throw "Namaste" around as if it is your culture, Karen. |
DP. It isn’t, but you definitely are. |