2-part breakup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With 36 hours to think about, I would brace yourself, he may be going through it.

Unfortunately, I think you’re right. Despite the work emergency, BF found the time to send me several messages in the middle of the night (I didn’t see them until morning). They were extremely angry and accusatory. It’s unclear if he still wishes to speak tomorrow. I’m not sure how or even if I should respond given he’s presumably still in the thick of things at work. PPs are correct that this is more drama than I anticipated.

Block and delete. It ended 2 days ago. No need to have another sit down.

[Anonymous]

OP here, appreciate the tough love. I blocked and deleted.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, I wouldn’t necessarily block and delete someone I just broke up with after a serious, two year relationship. Unless of course they were being abusive or disrespectful of boundaries. Or unless there was a history of that kind of behavior during the relationship. But maybe OP was getting more of the angry emails, with no end in sight.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s harsh to block and delete. It sounds like he was blindsided by the breakup and reacting, and if it was a serious relationship, I think it’s a totally normal reaction. I think he may want to still have a civil conversation with you after he works through his initial feelings, and I would give him that closure. I’ve been there OP, and that’s what we did.

[Anonymous]

Wow, blocking someone you just dumped after a two year relationship? Mean

[Anonymous]

This guy is an idiot. If you're breaking up, just leave and go cold turkey. Some people are so neurotic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, appreciate the tough love. I blocked and deleted.

OP had to get her word in and couldn't handle it coming back. Lucky man to have her out of his life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh- I had a guy do this once after an 18 month relationship and yes it was to point outlet all my many physical and psychological flaws. He even had another girl at that point.
I’ll say this: at the time it was mortifying and hurtful but now decades later it helped me see that I probably didn’t want to be with them anyway as that would have been my marriage.

Yup I had this once. I was away doing my field research. He proceeded to send me 4 letters outlining all the reasons why he was breaking up with me. 14 000 miles from home, in the middle of nowhere I found out that I was (apparently) intellectually deficient because the literature I read was low brow and we were culturally incompatible because I used ketchup…

[Anonymous]

You dumped him after a 2 year relationship, made him sit through your explanation of why it was his fault, promised to let him say his peace, but before he could, blocked and deleted him?

Stay classy, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You dumped him after a 2 year relationship, made him sit through your explanation of why it was his fault, promised to let him say his peace, but before he could, blocked and deleted him?

Stay classy, OP.

Not quite. I took 15 minutes to thank him and wish him well while he listened. He began to speak but was interrupted by work so we agreed to talk again later. In the meantime he sent me a series of vitriolic messages. I made the mistake of asking if he still wished to speak to me in person and he said yes, but then I thought better of it after rereading the messages (and DCUM advice) and blocked him.