I really don’t want to go to my friend’s birthday party

[Anonymous]

Say you were just exposed to covid.

[Anonymous]

I think you should rally and go. Hosting is an enormous amount of work and money and I think canceling last minute is rude unless it is truly something unavoidable like illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really crappy to not just rally and go. As a frequent host, I do notice who bags out at the last minute and try to avoid inviting them in the future. A friend of mine had 13 last minute cancellations to her Christmas party leaving her with an ocean of extra catered food. It’s just rude and selfish to not show at the last minute.

This. You only wanted to go to her birthday when it was convenient and with your spouse so you’re not a good friend and don’t actually want to see her.

[Anonymous]

what ever happened to just say no? Why do you feel you have to post this drivel here?

[Anonymous]

I'd rather you cancel than show up and not want to be there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

Same!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say you were just exposed to covid.

OP could try being honest. But to fabricate a reason and lie seem over the top.

OP, I wouldn't want someone who doesn't want to be at my birthday party if they didn't want to attend sincerely. It is a hassle logistically but it is showing up to your friend because you matter enough to them to invite you.

[Anonymous]

THEN DON'T GO (original OP post). Why waste our time on this? Think before you post again - "why would anyone other than me care about my post". if the answer is "no one" then don't post

[Anonymous]

So this is a couples party you were willing to drop into with your DH, but you can’t do this alone? Or would you still cancel if he were going?

[Anonymous]

I would go, but I care about other people's feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say you're sorry but you don't feel well. But also consider going - I often find that when I do drag myself somewhere I usually end up having a blast. And no need to say anything about your dinner plans - you can still stay for just a little bit if you want.

This is true for me also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

I used to be this person but have gotten much better at not agreeing to go or going if I agreed. It's an inconsiderate trait that I'm glad I rectified.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bad friend

+1

I hate people who cancel the day off

Same!

They are so inconsiderate. I refuse to invite them for subsequent events

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you should rally and go. Hosting is an enormous amount of work and money and I think canceling last minute is rude unless it is truly something unavoidable like illness.

+1. If you are unwilling to be honest about your reason then you know your reason is weak and selfish. If you feel you need to lie to have a legitimate excuse then you should rally and go. And next time don’t RSVP yes unless it’s somewhere you actually want to and intend to go. It’s not nice to have people shop and prep based on your yes and you just flake. It’s really better to decline rather than accept and cancel.

[Anonymous]

Don’t go. It’s OK to cancel if you need a mental rest day.

Don’t let folks shame you,