Boomer Parents Loud Home

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A big trend is refusing to wear hearing aids or refusing to get checked and needing hearing aids. Why are we paying so much Medicare for boomers again?

It isn’t a trend. Medicare and most suplemental insurance retirees use does NOT cover hearing aids or covers a very small amount like $300. Hearing aids can cost up to $6500 and to have to remember to charge them every night. They have to be programmed correctly and if you also wear glasses they can be uncomfortable. If you have dexterity problems they also can be tricky to properly insert.

I took my mom to Costco and she got hearing aids and she rarely wore them. Then years later when it was so noticeable her hearing was awful and her TV was so loud she couldn’t hear her phone ringing I found out there are insertable hearing aids that you wear for around 8 to 10 weeks then you go back to the audiologist and get a new pair like disposable contact lenses. You can’t see them when they are inserted so my mom loved it because no one can tell she wears hearing aids.

https://www.phonak.com/en-us/hearing-devices/hearing-aids/lyric

Only 10% of audiologist are trained to insert them and you have to pay a yearly fee. I think my mom pays around $3600 a month. She didn’t want to pay at first but luckily in several states there is a free 30 day trial. $300 a month is worth being able to hear!

So ignorant prior PP should take her ageism and shove it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my parents house for half an hour. The TV is SO loud. It is SO hot. Every light is on. My teenager and I are both in sensory overload already.

My dad keeps trying to join in the conversation but can’t hear us over the freaking loud football game he’s also watching.


We did ask him to turn it down and he did just a tiny bit.

Your parents need hearing aids

This used to drive me crazy when I went to visit my dad. Then I lost my hearing out of the blue. I had a new appreciation for how difficult life is with hearing loss and so much more compassion. It never in a million years occurred to me that it would happen in my 40s to someone with perfect hearing. I am fully deaf on one side and have loss on the other. Now I’m the one turning up the volume on the tv and DH can’t stand it. I turn on closed captioning but DH cancels it because it blocks the picture. I have hearing aids and discovered they help in some situations but not all. I now reserve tv watching only for when I’m alone and can send the sound directly to my aids or use Bluetooth for headphones. But it means I can’t enjoy tv with my family.

[Anonymous]

So there with you, OP. My dad and stepmother have terrible hearing but refuse to admit it and give the death scowl at any suggestion of a hearing aid. So the TV, which is always on, stays at volumes that make my ears hurt. And then we try to shout even louder to have a conversation. And so it goes. Makes the quiet days of January feel nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A big trend is refusing to wear hearing aids or refusing to get checked and needing hearing aids. Why are we paying so much Medicare for boomers again?

Tell me you know nothing without telling me you know nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my parents house for half an hour. The TV is SO loud. It is SO hot. Every light is on. My teenager and I are both in sensory overload already.

My dad keeps trying to join in the conversation but can’t hear us over the freaking loud football game he’s also watching.


We did ask him to turn it down and he did just a tiny bit.

Your parents need hearing aids

This used to drive me crazy when I went to visit my dad. Then I lost my hearing out of the blue. I had a new appreciation for how difficult life is with hearing loss and so much more compassion. It never in a million years occurred to me that it would happen in my 40s to someone with perfect hearing. I am fully deaf on one side and have loss on the other. Now I’m the one turning up the volume on the tv and DH can’t stand it. I turn on closed captioning but DH cancels it because it blocks the picture. I have hearing aids and discovered they help in some situations but not all. I now reserve tv watching only for when I’m alone and can send the sound directly to my aids or use Bluetooth for headphones. But it means I can’t enjoy tv with my family.

PP, your H is an ahole. I have a good friend with hearing loss and when she comes over to watch a movie we always turn the CC on. It doesn't block that much and you get used to it. It's really NBD and I can't believe your H will even complain about it. I am angry for you.

[Anonymous]

I’m a boomer parent and my kids (20’s) are the loud ones. They like the TV on, which I never put on when people are over. But it’s totally fine - it’s nice to have them home. They can turn the TV on and off, adjust the heat, whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a cruel child. Your parents do what they need to do because of failing abilities. HOw do you not understand this? My own hearing is starting to go. My vision is corrected, of course, but worthless on its own. Why do you think you are so privileged that you can come ere to crowdsource and complain? HELP THEM!

Oh F off, grandma.

And no one wants your linty hard candy.

Also, you smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes! The overly hot, overly loud house. And the parents shiffle around baffled why we are so uncomfortable after I say, Mom,it's hot in here and I can't hear you over all the TVs that are turned on.

It's almost funny when I'm not there.

I don’t understand how people change so much. Were they this way when you lived at home? My parents (early 70s) are similar to how they were decades ago. Similar habits, similar preferences, similar sensibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a boomer parent and my kids (20’s) are the loud ones. They like the TV on, which I never put on when people are over. But it’s totally fine - it’s nice to have them home. They can turn the TV on and off, adjust the heat, whatever.

A boomer parent with 20 year olds?

[Anonymous]

Yes! It's so true. For my own I'd add my dad stomping around in hard-soled slippers in the middle of the night, my parents yelling across the house to one another and grinding coffee/clanking dishes/vacuuming at the buttcrack of dawn.

We live locally to them so I almost never have reason to stay there, but my sister complains about it to me every vacation. We recently had work done at the house and stayed a few nights and it was everything my sister said and more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been at my parents house for half an hour. The TV is SO loud. It is SO hot. Every light is on. My teenager and I are both in sensory overload already.

My dad keeps trying to join in the conversation but can’t hear us over the freaking loud football game he’s also watching.


We did ask him to turn it down and he did just a tiny bit.

Your parents need hearing aids

This used to drive me crazy when I went to visit my dad. Then I lost my hearing out of the blue. I had a new appreciation for how difficult life is with hearing loss and so much more compassion. It never in a million years occurred to me that it would happen in my 40s to someone with perfect hearing. I am fully deaf on one side and have loss on the other. Now I’m the one turning up the volume on the tv and DH can’t stand it. I turn on closed captioning but DH cancels it because it blocks the picture. I have hearing aids and discovered they help in some situations but not all. I now reserve tv watching only for when I’m alone and can send the sound directly to my aids or use Bluetooth for headphones. But it means I can’t enjoy tv with my family.

PP, your H is an ahole. I have a good friend with hearing loss and when she comes over to watch a movie we always turn the CC on. It doesn't block that much and you get used to it. It's really NBD and I can't believe your H will even complain about it. I am angry for you.

Agree. What kind of a spouse does this to the person they love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes! The overly hot, overly loud house. And the parents shiffle around baffled why we are so uncomfortable after I say, Mom,it's hot in here and I can't hear you over all the TVs that are turned on.

It's almost funny when I'm not there.

I don’t understand how people change so much. Were they this way when you lived at home? My parents (early 70s) are similar to how they were decades ago. Similar habits, similar preferences, similar sensibilities.

I hope you’ll be the exception, but for my parents 70 to 75 was a gradual but noticeable change and 75 to 80 was a time of rapidly accelerating change. Although my dad was a decade older than my mom, their aging trajectories followed similar paths.

Most people don’t acquire new traits, hobbies or habits as they age and drop many others along the way. So the habits that remain intensify and are more obvious without the backdrop of all of the other things that used to fill their lives. Someone who is loud in the early morning but then disappears for a walk with friends, the office, or a hobby isn’t noticeable in the way that someone who is loud in the early morning and then sits in the kitchen for 2 hours might be.

[Anonymous]

So many people who appear to be completely lacking empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes! The overly hot, overly loud house. And the parents shiffle around baffled why we are so uncomfortable after I say, Mom,it's hot in here and I can't hear you over all the TVs that are turned on.

It's almost funny when I'm not there.

I don’t understand how people change so much. Were they this way when you lived at home? My parents (early 70s) are similar to how they were decades ago. Similar habits, similar preferences, similar sensibilities.

It starts when people hit their 80s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are a cruel child. Your parents do what they need to do because of failing abilities. HOw do you not understand this? My own hearing is starting to go. My vision is corrected, of course, but worthless on its own. Why do you think you are so privileged that you can come ere to crowdsource and complain? HELP THEM!

OP here you don’t know me at all. I care for my parents an extraordinary amount. My father has health issues that I help my mom manage. He’s just rude and won’t turn the TV off when people come over and visit. And when people are trying to have a conversation he turns the volume UP and then gets mad he’s left out of the conversation

Actually the poster called you out correctly and you lack the self awareness to consider what she wrote.