These are not easy. |
private school XC teams are generally very inclusive, regardless of skill level |
Actress here. If she likes musical theater get her into dance classes.
It's not going to be instant social group at a new school the same way the lacrosse team would be, but it's an activity and it is physical and it would help with the theater. |
I like this idea--not all kids want to play sportsball (I know I never did). |
Some privates have winter fitness, spring fitness, dance etc as sports, maybe she would like something like this. |
I find that track is also inclusive. |
Similar DD did a learn to row program in HS. Never found a sport she liked prior to this. Joined a not too competitive club team in HS. Still rowing in college. It’s been great for her confidence, great group of friends on the team and just loves being out on the water. There are many colleges with club teams so if your DD likes it but doesn’t want to be in a highly competitive/intense sport situation, she can still do it in college. |
Climbing! It’s a very inclusive community, you don’t need a specific body type, and there’s a lot of thought and problem solving. |
I agree with this. If ballet seems too stuffy, try jazz, hip hop, or musical theater specific classes. I also think choir might fill this niche. And show choir as an extracurricular (like on "Glee"). |
Running is the only thing an u athletic person can do besides walking. Try XC. Or possibly, if she is tiny, she could learn to cox a rowing team. My kid was a D1 Ivy rowing recruit. One of her friends was actually autistic and not athletic and was the cox for her team. |
Please let her take her time and find the activities, friends, teachers, clubs, etc that SHE wants to get involved in/with. Your well-intended efforts to find things for her will work against her developing her confidence and her own voice. If she has a year of observing and acclimating that will be okay. Schools make efforts in the fall for new students to make friends. Please consider letting her own her experience.
- an Upper School teacher |
Stop trying to force sports. I was your DD. I hated it. It actually embarrassed me. Help her find something she likes to do with other kids that aligns to her interests. A club or hobby? A spin or yoga class? Anything that is led by her, not you. Tell her she doesn't have to do a sport but she needs to be involved with something every semester. Stay back and she will find her way. |
yoga? pilates? cycling? |
This is a random comment but I totally agree. I know more than a few former college and national team coxes with autism. I guess it attracts a certain rule of person? Not saying this is OP’s DD, but it’s a great role for someone who is focused, strategic, great at being part of a team, and not necessarily athletic. |
Crew |