you go person! |
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I thought my first child was a gorgeous baby. When she was 2 weeks old I would send pictures to friends and family telling everyone I had never seen anything nearly as beautiful. The she grew and became even prettier. Then her sister was born and she was a MUCH prettier baby and I went back to look at my first DD’s baby pictures and she honestly looked like a little alien 😂. She was very skinny with huge eyes, nose and mouth. She was objectively one of the ugliest babies. My second DD was objectively prettier. She had a rounder plumper face, small nose, big eyes and smaller mouth.
My son looked like a very hairy sumo wrestler when he was born. I knew he was an ugly baby from the start and his eyes were so small (which I knew it would change since we all have big eyes). All 3 kids are now in elementary and are all good looking. My eldest is still the less pretty one, but she inherited her aunt’s model body so she will be beautiful (with a big nose). Middle daughter has an objectively beautiful face (still round with big light eyes, plump lips and small nose). She is shorter and does not have her aunts model body. My son is very cute and tall, but I have no clue how he will look at 20 since he is only 6. |
There are three types of parents, one see their kids as perfect, other sees as not good enough and third doesn't care about looks. |
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People gave preferences. If you find the child's parent attractive, you'll likely find the child attractive.
Ugliness is generally inherited, so ugly people know we have ugly kids. They know, just like I know I have attractive kids. |
| Youth is attractive, which can paper over features that are uglier in an older person. |
| Yes. That’s wired into human evolution. If our own kids weren’t just tiny cute versions of ourselves or someone we loved, why would we take care of crying, pooping, little monsters that offer no other immediate benefits. Cuteness is the answer. |
| I think so. I noticed all the ugly kids in my schools always seemed to have parents who were super proud and thrilled with them |
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I am South Asian but have green eyes - think Aishwarya Rai Bachchan. My children all inherited brown eyes and two with dusky skin, one wheatish. They receive very many comments in looking traditionally while I receive the opposite so it is interesting to see when you mention conventional beauty. When children do not resemble you it is a different version of how you see their beauty. I love them all and I think each is beautiful. It’s just a different feeling I am sure to see a child who looks exactly like you.
We are very much like this:
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sure Jan
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| I once had a mother tell me she knew her son was ugly, but she loved him anyways. |
| So because you don’t think her child is conventionally attractive she shouldn’t acknowledge her? I don’t think any parent should post any child online for privacy reasons, but she should be proud of her kid and show her off regardless of her looks. |
You are a mean person. |
| I think DS is attractive, but in an interesting way. He has very fine features, if he has beanie on people will think he's a girl, think high/defined cheekbones, small nose, etc. Honestly not sure where it came from, but I am curious how he will look as a grown up, or even through puberty (he's 10 now). |
Not identical to them, coloring and features wise is what I mean |
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Between all the kids growing up together in my family, siblings, cousins, who are now in their teens or 20s, there was one that got excessive attention. Everyone commented on how stunning she was, beautiful, can’t stop looking at her. Some mothers actually asked if she was a model. When she was like four.
None of the other kids got nearly as much attention. Actually very little attention. People let you know what they think one way or another. |