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Ryan O’Neal dies at 82
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Anonymous
| His son Patrick seems devoted to him and keeps posting about it. |
Anonymous
| Great actor, but just ask John McEnroe his thoughts on the guy. |
Anonymous
That doesn’t mean anything, you know. The sick dynamics of abuse, especially narcissistic abuse by a narc ‘parent’ (narcs aren’t really capable of parenting), mean that many children of such narcissists adore their parents and will not speak a word against them - that kind of mindset is trained into scapegoat and golden children alike, often with beatings. One of the reasons we see so many such children struggling in marriage and the workplace and in parenting in midlife is because this is the time when they finally confront the truth of their childhood which they have never talked about before because in childhood they were trained by abuse to not speak of it, even years after they’ve been in the world long enough to realize it wasn’t right or healthy because that isn’t how all families are, after all. My parents were both very messed up psychologically and very abusive of us kids - they also both had a host of addictions and other aberrant behavior. They also both worshipped their fathers, who they put on pedestals rather than seeing them as nuanced human beings. I learned later in life from extensive research within the families that both of my grandfathers were abusive angry men who tormented their families. Some kids respond to abusive parenting by speaking out, having more conflict with the parent as a consequence and ultimately estranging. Some never say boo and even embrace the parents behavior and model their own on it. I have both kinds of kids in my family and I have had to suffer the pain of seeing the abuse carry on now to two more generations via my nieces and nephews and grand nephews. It’s awful to grow up the child of a narcissistic POS like Ryan O’Neal. Nothing in his career was remotely redemptive of his personal life. I feel sorry for the kids, but at least with him dead there are no more opportunities for him to hurt them. I know they’ve been grieving a father their whole lives already. |
Anonymous
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Color me a weirdo, but Ryan ‘O Neal was always one of those “sexy” older men to me.
Along with Harrison Ford. |
Anonymous
That’s why it’s called acting. |