Justifying a solo destination spa visit.

[Anonymous]

OP, Please go on this trip and enjoy every minute. I wish I could afford to do it!

You are worth it.

[Anonymous]

OP with update.

Conversation with husband was a non event. I said (like others suggestion) that for my milestone birthday, I'm going to a destination spa for a week, alone. He asked if i wanted him to book it or if I would do it myself.

That's it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP with update.

Conversation with husband was a non event. I said (like others suggestion) that for my milestone birthday, I'm going to a destination spa for a week, alone. He asked if i wanted him to book it or if I would do it myself.

That's it!

Great! Let us know where you go so we can live vicariously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP with update.

Conversation with husband was a non event. I said (like others suggestion) that for my milestone birthday, I'm going to a destination spa for a week, alone. He asked if i wanted him to book it or if I would do it myself.

That's it!

Great update! Now relax and look forward to it, OP!

[Anonymous]

Start the conversation with...for my "milestone" birthday, I'd like to spend a week at this spa.

[Anonymous]

Happy for you OP. Since he also does solo trips that makes sense.

[Anonymous]

Girl, you don’t have to justify shit. Go. You’ve earned it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Girl, you don’t have to justify shit. Go. You’ve earned it!

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[Anonymous]

UPdate. I booked the trip! Yes. Almost two years later. Since I started this thread, my well being has taken a hit. I told DH I needed to go and he's traveling that same week with both kids.

He said it was great and he was fully supportive and didn't even question it. Also, I booked first class on the way back to continue my zen.

Regarding my poor inner child, I did a lot of therapy b/c I realized that it was me holding me back.

I very much appreciate all the support that I got on this thread. A DCUM unicorn. I will report back once I go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:UPdate. I booked the trip! Yes. Almost two years later. Since I started this thread, my well being has taken a hit. I told DH I needed to go and he's traveling that same week with both kids.

He said it was great and he was fully supportive and didn't even question it. Also, I booked first class on the way back to continue my zen.

Regarding my poor inner child, I did a lot of therapy b/c I realized that it was me holding me back.

I very much appreciate all the support that I got on this thread. A DCUM unicorn. I will report back once I go.

OP great update! Sorry whatever happened that delayed your trip. Awesome that your DH is being supportive!

[Anonymous]

Yay. Sorry for whatever lef to the delay.

[Anonymous]

This update is so great! Now, book yourself another trip for next quarter/year/whatever so you have something to look forward to.

[Anonymous]

Haven’t read all the comments here.

I have never had to justify solo trips, spa or otherwise. I go to Esalen on my own every other year or so, and am planning a spa trip to Sedona soon. I have my own money as well, but my DH doesn’t mind me spending “our money” on this either, and you seem to have (a bit) more money than we do.

This isn’t about money for you, even though I know it feels that way — it’s about control and fear. And you appear to be doing it to yourself as much as your DH may be.

Just book the trip and go. You don’t need to justify it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think there’s anything to justify. You book it and you go. Have a nice time.

[Anonymous]

Spa Botánico at the Ritz Carlton Dorado Beach is out of this world. Enjoy it!