Help Resolve Issue/Communication Error

[Anonymous]

This isn’t about a game or a theater show. This is about your husband not feeling heard in your marriage. Whether or not he is right to feel that way, you need to start marriage counseling with him to work out these issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A problem with rec soccer is that too many kids miss games because it’s a lower priority than many other things and teams often end up playing short handed. If you are a coach it can drive you nuts. I’ve been a soccer coach and always did my best to communicate to the parents the importance to the team of their kids being at every practice and game so as to not let the team down. Learning to not let a team down is an important early life lesson. Your child is ten and not six so learning about being a team member could resonate for a long time.

OP, I think we've found your husband.
It's the LAST GAME OF THE SEASON, bro... lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update.

I really appreciate everyone’s advice, and it helped to know I am not crazy for thinking the way I do. That being said, I tried to speak to DH about it again, and he basically said that if I take her to the show he would be furious and he feels like I am choosing to do what I want regardless of how he feels.

So… do I “make him furious” or do I just cancel the show, eat the cost, and look for a different special thing to do with grandparents?

Part of me wants you to ask your daughter what she wants to do and then do that, but given the way your husband is acting, it makes me nervous that he would then lash out at her, which is completely unacceptable.

If it were me, I'd let him be furious and I would go because he is unreasonable and I wouldn't let anyone acting like a brat get their way. We don't negotiate with terrorists...

As a former toddler, I can empathize with this tantrum he's throwing.

Let. Him. Be. Furious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The game isn’t a big deal. Ok to miss. But the show also isn’t a big deal and it is okay to miss. I’m sure at some point in the (near) future your parents, your daughter and you could make a show. That’s probably what your DH is thinking.

I still remember every single show that my grandparents took me to 30 years later.
This absolutely IS a big deal, as opposed to another soccer game, in a sea of soccer games that will all blur together when she thinks back to this season, plus it's the last game.

I have no idea how you made this kind of comparison, because it's literally apples to oranges.