What’s with everything being cheeky these days

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny/pathetic that so many women have bought into the lie that if you don’t go prancing around half naked you must have body image issues. And so many women really don’t seem to understand the concept of an appropriate time and place for everything. (For example, a sexy swimsuit you wear to the beach with your husband is not necessary appropriate for the neighborhood pool…)

I think this is a personal decision and I don’t spend my time thinking other people are funny/pathetic, because that’s beneath the standard of character to which I try to hold myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny/pathetic that so many women have bought into the lie that if you don’t go prancing around half naked you must have body image issues. And so many women really don’t seem to understand the concept of an appropriate time and place for everything. (For example, a sexy swimsuit you wear to the beach with your husband is not necessary appropriate for the neighborhood pool…)

No. I reject that worldview forcefully. You should be able to wear whatever you want at the neighborhood pool, just like at the beach.

I grew up going to European beaches where women went topless - everyone and their grandmother, mind you. It wasn't at all a sexual statement. It was more of a "I don't want tan lines" , and "I feel more comfortable" kind of statements. There were also nudist colonies - and people there had a range of figures and shapes, because again, it wasn't anything sexual, but a philosophy of freedom. I'm not a nudist sort of person, for hygiene reasons, but I understand the thinking behind it.

And here you are, judging a swimsuit for being too sexy at the pool?!
What's wrong with you?!

Thank goodness you are in the minority: I see all sorts of bodies in all sorts of swimwear at the pools of the DC area. People who are enjoying their lives, while you waste yours desperately trying to police anyone who doesn't think like you. You are mentally disordered if you think you have any sort of moral high ground, here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wasn't this same trend going on in the 80s?

Yes. I feel so sorry for women athletes who have to play with their uniforms up their butt. It looks so uncomfortable.

They don't have to. They prefer it. Ask an athlete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s funny/pathetic that so many women have bought into the lie that if you don’t go prancing around half naked you must have body image issues. And so many women really don’t seem to understand the concept of an appropriate time and place for everything. (For example, a sexy swimsuit you wear to the beach with your husband is not necessary appropriate for the neighborhood pool…)

No. I reject that worldview forcefully. You should be able to wear whatever you want at the neighborhood pool, just like at the beach.

I grew up going to European beaches where women went topless - everyone and their grandmother, mind you. It wasn't at all a sexual statement. It was more of a "I don't want tan lines" , and "I feel more comfortable" kind of statements. There were also nudist colonies - and people there had a range of figures and shapes, because again, it wasn't anything sexual, but a philosophy of freedom. I'm not a nudist sort of person, for hygiene reasons, but I understand the thinking behind it.

And here you are, judging a swimsuit for being too sexy at the pool?!
What's wrong with you?!

Thank goodness you are in the minority: I see all sorts of bodies in all sorts of swimwear at the pools of the DC area. People who are enjoying their lives, while you waste yours desperately trying to police anyone who doesn't think like you. You are mentally disordered if you think you have any sort of moral high ground, here.

So this is a perfect example of failure to comprehend appropriate time/place. Go topless at the beach in Europe if that makes you happy! I don’t care! But we’re in America, and that’s just not something we do here. I don’t try to police anyone (WTF?) but I do think women wearing their sexy “look-at-me” suits to go swim in a family-oriented setting either lack basic sense or are desperate for attention. Again, because we’re discussing neighborhood pools in America, not European beaches or nudist colonies.

[Anonymous]

Aside from swimsuits, I have not seen an uptick in cheeky garments or exposed buttcheeks.

On swimsuits, though, yes. I'm only 5'3', and my legs are short and stumpy-ish. I love high-cut legs on bathing suits because they elongate my legs, and my whole appearance overall. It's just physics that if the leg is highcut, the suit is also going to be rather cheeky. So, that's why you will see me in a cheeky bathing suit...it has high cut legs, which are flattering. (I'm 42, FWIW.)

[Anonymous]

I honestly think it’s just that less fabric is cheaper to manufacture. Cost goes down but we are still charged a lot of money. The fashion industry is an industry after all. Sad then we show more skin because that’s what is in fashion.

[Anonymous]

I’m tall and already have enough of a hard time covering the cheeks. I hate the cheeky trend. It’s not that I mind looking at it. It’s more that it grosses me out thinking that I’m sitting down in someone else’s butt sweat and whatever else. If your tush is your favorite body part then by all means show it off. Just bring a towel to the pool to sit on.

[Anonymous]

I live on the beach in Florida. DH and I agree that most of the girls we see in these cheeky suits rarely look as sexy as they’re hoping, and most spend the whole time self consciously pulling it out of their butt cracks. Objectively, on the average American butt, it is an unflattering look - for a variety of reasons. Not too many perfectly toned perky butts on our beaches. On a perky toned butt (large or small) can look great. But most, it just is another awkward trend that some awkward teen is trying to pull off, not very successfully.

[Anonymous]

The cheeky look in swim wear has been popular here for 7 or 8 years? I'm not sure why OP is just noticing it now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're the one who trolled my bikini-at-the-community-pool thread last year?

Joking. I'm French and find American contrasts fascinating: US culture is hyper-sexualized, yet, middle class uptight moms don't want to see skin except at certain types of "resort beaches". Girls should be affirmed and not told they're fat, yet middle class uptight moms deplore their crop tops...

Maybe you should just enjoy your life. You only have one.

Only in America. Guns everywhere but people are scandalized by bathing suits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live on the beach in Florida. DH and I agree that most of the girls we see in these cheeky suits rarely look as sexy as they’re hoping, and most spend the whole time self consciously pulling it out of their butt cracks. Objectively, on the average American butt, it is an unflattering look - for a variety of reasons. Not too many perfectly toned perky butts on our beaches. On a perky toned butt (large or small) can look great. But most, it just is another awkward trend that some awkward teen is trying to pull off, not very successfully.

I'm in California, and this doesn't check. Yes, women are wearing cheeky suits, but they look like they're going about their activities without attention to their suits, they look at ease. I think these styles actually stay in place better than the full coverage suits, which were prone to wedgies and constant adjustment. I'm not talking about thongs, just cheeky styles.

[Anonymous]

Don’t get me wrong, I dread the thought of my husband or son wearing a thong at the pool or beach. I’m no prude, I have a few racy cut swim suits that I wear in the islands with hubby but wouldn’t wear in Ocean City.

Ahh, so you’re okay with butts out as long as it isn’t stateside.

[Anonymous]

I actually think a cheeky and high cut bathing suit is more flattering on most people. Full cut bathing suit bottoms look like diapers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's physics and freedom. As a big bottomed girl before the Kardashians made it a thing, I was always picking wedgies trying to wear the styles that I guess just stayed on the butt cheeks of flat butt girls.

Now we're just eliminating the extra fabric and putting the fabric where it will be after movement. I'm too old to participate but it's great.

Same with olympic divers. Their suits are cut almost thong style. oh so scandalous. No, it's to minimize fussing with the physics.

I love this. It’s cutting out the middle man!

[Anonymous]

They don't have to. They prefer it. Ask an athlete.

Some prefer it, sure. Just don’t ask the Norwegian handball team, the German gymnastics team, Welsh paralympian Olivia Breen, or any of the others who have been vocal about the skimpiness of uniforms they are required to wear. Female athletes rarely have a choice[u] about what they wear if they want to compete.