I have a lot money and a little happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Money doesn't feed the soul. Life is about relationships. It's about creating connection with other people. Deep, mutual relationships are what enrich you, OP. The good news is that you only need one.

Spouse gets in the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had another baby to fix this.

Howdy that work out?

[Anonymous]

Op's post is a typical attitude of rich people (that commoners like us don't understand).

Rich people see the world differently. The things that are fulfilling and make them happy are not tangible objects.

They seek out adventure, experience, unique opportunities- like the Titan submersible adventure, flying into space, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cocaine.

Noo. Laced with Fentanyl, kills in a second.

[Anonymous]

You need to know what makes you unhappy. I know what makes me unhappy and yes, money would help. I will have enough money to fix it in few years. I'm unhappy until then.

[Anonymous]

OP. Give away all your money and possessions. All of it. Starve for a day or two, then begin working hard to deal with your starvation. The 'happy' you will get from making money to feed yourself and your family is immeasurable.

[Anonymous]

Dress down community service. No one knows who you are and can’t tell. What you do in the moment matters. Feels good. And I’m generally cranky. Go up and down your block and pick up trash. Eat lunch with kids in a school. Whatever you like.

[Anonymous]

Go to the FATFIRE subreddit….

Great advice.

Same sit here.

40m NW….quit job…but incredibly dissatisfied

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op's post is a typical attitude of rich people (that commoners like us don't understand).

Rich people see the world differently. The things that are fulfilling and make them happy are not tangible objects.

They seek out adventure, experience, unique opportunities- like the Titan submersible adventure, flying into space, etc.

True. Very true.

[Anonymous]

My husband and and I are both retired and we have a lot of money. We live comfortably but not extravagantly though when we travel overseas it is always first class. What makes us very happy is that we have set up trusts for our children and grandchildren that will insure their health, education and well being without them becoming trust fund babies. We also donate a lot to very specific small charities where we can clearly see the benefit from those gifts. It really comes down to helping others as a way to be happy.

[Anonymous]

Travel won’t bring happiness to you. I’ve tracked full time for literally year's aside from a brief timeout during Covid.

The SNL skit with Adam Sandler doing commercials about Italian tours is right on.
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[Anonymous]

The two are not highly correlated.

Money only matters up to a very stressful low minimum.

Did you think it would make you happy?

I agree with the suggestions to speak to a counselor (not psychiatrist) to understand what would make you happy.

Luckily, once you figure that out, you will be in a position do it (though it may not require $$).

[Anonymous]

In my experience it’s not totally true that money can’t buy you happiness. BUT. Here is what I’ve learned so far:

1. Stay invisible. Don’t let other people know you have (a lot of) money - it’s makes new friendships harder and friendships/ connection are SO important.
2. Figure out what irritates you or stresses you out - and then figure out how to never do it again. Money may not be able to buy happiness but it can create lovely frictionless solutions for situations that were previously stressful. (Personally, being whisked through customs and into a car to my hotel never gets old for me but YMMV)
3. Give money anonymously when you give locally and then carry around that little secret with you and let it bring you joy.
4. Keep making new friends, keep meeting new people. Don’t let your money isolate you and don’t fall into the trap of thinking everyone is out to get something from you. Some people will - but they are rarer than you think and it’s not worth missing all the other great people just to avoid one or two shady ones.
5. Use your money to keep in touch with your old friends - the ones who were your friends before you had a dime. Those people love you for who you are and you know it. Go see them. Take them out to dinner. Rent a beach house and invite them to it. Seeing old friends refreshes your soul.
6. Go to therapy and get all the “I feel awful and I’m so rich and I don’t know why it’s awful sometimes” stuff off your chest because you absolutely cannot talk to most people about this.
7. Make a few really friends and have a couple trips with them a year - sometimes it nice to bring your whole self to your friendships, including talking about how sometimes it’s hard to be rich. It’s too insufferable to talk about with most people, but you can do it with other rich people.
8. Never ever use your money/wealth/privilege to make other people feel bad. If you find yourself in some weird conversation where someone is trying to flex or one-up you, you know you’re not in a conversation worth having. At the end of the day, making other people feel bad because you have so much will only make you feel horrible and empty.

Best of luck. It’s a gift. Enjoy it (carefully).

[Anonymous]

Invest in your relationships - good family and friends. If you have that, you will be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience it’s not totally true that money can’t buy you happiness. BUT. Here is what I’ve learned so far:

1. Stay invisible. Don’t let other people know you have (a lot of) money - it’s makes new friendships harder and friendships/ connection are SO important.
2. Figure out what irritates you or stresses you out - and then figure out how to never do it again. Money may not be able to buy happiness but it can create lovely frictionless solutions for situations that were previously stressful. (Personally, being whisked through customs and into a car to my hotel never gets old for me but YMMV)
3. Give money anonymously when you give locally and then carry around that little secret with you and let it bring you joy.
4. Keep making new friends, keep meeting new people. Don’t let your money isolate you and don’t fall into the trap of thinking everyone is out to get something from you. Some people will - but they are rarer than you think and it’s not worth missing all the other great people just to avoid one or two shady ones.
5. Use your money to keep in touch with your old friends - the ones who were your friends before you had a dime. Those people love you for who you are and you know it. Go see them. Take them out to dinner. Rent a beach house and invite them to it. Seeing old friends refreshes your soul.
6. Go to therapy and get all the “I feel awful and I’m so rich and I don’t know why it’s awful sometimes” stuff off your chest because you absolutely cannot talk to most people about this.
7. Make a few really friends and have a couple trips with them a year - sometimes it nice to bring your whole self to your friendships, including talking about how sometimes it’s hard to be rich. It’s too insufferable to talk about with most people, but you can do it with other rich people.
8. Never ever use your money/wealth/privilege to make other people feel bad. If you find yourself in some weird conversation where someone is trying to flex or one-up you, you know you’re not in a conversation worth having. At the end of the day, making other people feel bad because you have so much will only make you feel horrible and empty.

Best of luck. It’s a gift. Enjoy it (carefully).

So, I agree with all of this except #6 re therapy and would add one more thing. When you were little what did you imagine your life to be like as an adult? Being a race car driver? Being a princess? Skiing in the Alps everyday? Living on an island? Whatever that was, you can do it now, in some manner. Just go do it. Buy a place in the Caribbean, either as a vacation home or permanent residence. Rent a castle for a month in France or England. Buy a chalet in the Alps, they are not cost prohibitive if you really do have a lot of money. And if it was race car driver, there are plenty of places in the world that will let you have a fast car that you can race around in. Just go do it. Nothing should be stopping you and you will feel like you are living the dreams you had when you were little. I don't think it has to be as angsty and therapy-needing as what others are saying, you just have to start living the life you want. Period.