“Do not ask your children to strive”
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Anonymous
Working hard is not the same as "striving to be extraordinary". It's making the best of the here and now. |
Anonymous
| You should be able to manage a balance between no pressure at all and creating a pressure cooker that is detrimental to your children. No pressure at all is why so many more Asians end up in our elite institutions; their parents don't believe in this "let them be" philosophy. Likewise, too much pressure, and you have kids who range from unhappy to self harming because they have no freedom to be kids. |
Anonymous
| Is this a joke? |
Anonymous
Kids who self harm don’t do it because they have “too much pressure” on them. They do that because they don’t have ENOUGH pressure on them so they don’t know how to react when they’re given a challenge or anything that requires even the slightest amount of grit, persistence, and resilience. Let your kids be challenged! |
Anonymous
I think you are missing the entire point of the poem. Truth is most humans-including the vast majority of kids who get into AAP and TJ-are not *that* extraordinary. It doesn't mean they are losers or mediocre. It's a big ass continuum people. And that is ok-there is a lot more (and I mean a lot more) to life than getting into a T10 college. BTW-My kids are in AAP, and do outside math. I expect good grades. But life is so much more than "making it" as the US defines it. |
Anonymous
| Reminds me of that children’s book about the mouse poet Frederick by Leo Lionni. |
Anonymous
They sound confused. |