A relative of mine is set to inherit the family home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My family has a farm in Ireland we have owned at least 400 years. My great great grandfathers house is still there in ruins as well.

My grandmother set up will to give to oldest son. She had five kids. Never updated will.

Well he was a life time bachelor and got married at 72. Dropped dead 74 and his wife of two years got farm. She has two deadbeat sons who wanted to sell it to a developer who wants to build townhomes. It is 110 acres

My “aunt” after getting an earful decided not to sell in her lifetime, but giving to her sons after her death. Say they are selling.

I will never understand why she did not make the will 22 acres each for her five kids. No one has lived on property in 50 years. Just abandoned. Soon to be townhomes or condos

Such is life

Your branch of the family has owned the farm
Great great grandfather left it to the oldest son, other kids had to make do without
Your father had siblings and so did your fathers farther
Farms go to heir apparent, they cannot be divided among siblings as inheritance since a farm can only produce so much and support just one family

Your father was not oldest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ll never get why adult children resent the young wife’s inheritance.

Usually, she was there and they were not for the last phase of the person’s life. Dad wanted a companion/nurse who would also f$& him, and he paid for it with his wealth. It’s a valid choice! And I don’t really care if it’s sex work adjacent or not, it’s work and as long as everyone was of sound mind when they signed the contract, it’s none of your business. No one is entitled to an inheritance.

Sometimes the money the dad is leaving to his new wife is money that was earned by the first wife that she left to her husband when she died. In that case I get it.

[Anonymous]

I can see why someone would be upset that their family farm went to 2 kids that were not family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ll never get why adult children resent the young wife’s inheritance.

Usually, she was there and they were not for the last phase of the person’s life. Dad wanted a companion/nurse who would also f$& him, and he paid for it with his wealth. It’s a valid choice! And I don’t really care if it’s sex work adjacent or not, it’s work and as long as everyone was of sound mind when they signed the contract, it’s none of your business. No one is entitled to an inheritance.

This is why we have a family trust.

Sometimes the money the dad is leaving to his new wife is money that was earned by the first wife that she left to her husband when she died. In that case I get it.