Swim Excuse Note

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sending her these messages:

Your backne is embarrassing.

Your insecurities are more important than other's' insecurities.

When life is unpleasant, you should avoid it.

Exactly.

OP, this sends a terrible message to your kid.

Oh yes, like the message that:

“It is your body and no one has a right to compel you to display it, particularly under circumstances where the display is likely to result in malicious, targeted, anti-woman bullying.”

Yup, terrible message.

WTF are you talking about? She can wear a wetsuit that covers up everything and more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sending her these messages:

Your backne is embarrassing.

Your insecurities are more important than other's' insecurities.

When life is unpleasant, you should avoid it.

Exactly.

OP, this sends a terrible message to your kid.

Oh yes, like the message that:

“It is your body and no one has a right to compel you to display it, particularly under circumstances where the display is likely to result in malicious, targeted, anti-woman bullying.”

Yup, terrible message.

And it also reinforces the melodramatic among us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sending her these messages:

Your backne is embarrassing.

Your insecurities are more important than other's' insecurities.

When life is unpleasant, you should avoid it.

Exactly.

OP, this sends a terrible message to your kid.

Oh yes, like the message that:

“It is your body and no one has a right to compel you to display it, particularly under circumstances where the display is likely to result in malicious, targeted, anti-woman bullying.”

Yup, terrible message.

Where are you even getting that? No one is making her wear any particular swimsuit, and there's no reason to expect "malicious, targeted, anti-woman bullying."

[Anonymous]

You're doing your daughter a disservice pulling her out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ve never heard of how having really curly hair is something that would stop someone from swimming. I have curly hair myself. Are you African American by chance?

OP here. I’m not, but her dad does have textured hair and she inherited a really fine, super curly, easy to frizz texture.

It’s funny people hooked onto the acne as an issue. I don’t think it’s the biggest factor. (I’m not going to quiz her about her exact body insecurities) I think the hair is number one and her (perfectly normal) figure is the second. She has really baggy style of dressing and does not like tight clothing in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ve never heard of how having really curly hair is something that would stop someone from swimming. I have curly hair myself. Are you African American by chance?

OP here. I’m not, but her dad does have textured hair and she inherited a really fine, super curly, easy to frizz texture.

It’s funny people hooked onto the acne as an issue. I don’t think it’s the biggest factor. (I’m not going to quiz her about her exact body insecurities) I think the hair is number one and her (perfectly normal) figure is the second. She has really baggy style of dressing and does not like tight clothing in general.

I didn’t as a teenager either. I still dealt with swim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sending her these messages:

Your backne is embarrassing.

Your insecurities are more important than other's' insecurities.

When life is unpleasant, you should avoid it.

Exactly.

OP, this sends a terrible message to your kid.

Oh yes, like the message that:

“It is your body and no one has a right to compel you to display it, particularly under circumstances where the display is likely to result in malicious, targeted, anti-woman bullying.”

Yup, terrible message.

WTF are you talking about? She can wear a wetsuit that covers up everything and more.

A wetsuit is tight fitting. Do you know what you are talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're sending her these messages:

Your backne is embarrassing.

Your insecurities are more important than other's' insecurities.

When life is unpleasant, you should avoid it.

Exactly.

OP, this sends a terrible message to your kid.

Oh yes, like the message that:

“It is your body and no one has a right to compel you to display it, particularly under circumstances where the display is likely to result in malicious, targeted, anti-woman bullying.”

Yup, terrible message.

WTF are you talking about? She can wear a wetsuit that covers up everything and more.

A wetsuit is tight fitting. Do you know what you are talking about?

A wetsuit covers basically everything. No swimwear is anything but tight. Doesn’t mean the kid should be able to just not go to swim class. That’s ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

There are tons of kids her age at our neighborhood pool, so I find this strange.

[Anonymous]

I love public school.

Female students can't wear tank tops because it makes the boys too hot and bothered but they can parade around in swimsuits in front of their male peers.

What a fking joke.

I would simply tell the PE teacher to flunk her for that unit and tell them she's sitting out. Screw that nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would absolutely do this. I would have sooner run away from home than be in a bathing suit in front of my peers.

This.
This activity is totally inappropriate to force on 14 year olds in school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are tons of kids her age at our neighborhood pool, so I find this strange.

OP here. It’s school specific. She was very picky about her suit this year. It’s an extremely modestly cut, solid color speedo. But, she has no problem swimming at camp or with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love public school.

Female students can't wear tank tops because it makes the boys too hot and bothered but they can parade around in swimsuits in front of their male peers.

What a fking joke.

I would simply tell the PE teacher to flunk her for that unit and tell them she's sitting out. Screw that nonsense.

OP again. PE is single gender at her school. But, yes, they can’t wear tank tops or short shorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I’ve never heard of how having really curly hair is something that would stop someone from swimming. I have curly hair myself. Are you African American by chance?

OP here. I’m not, but her dad does have textured hair and she inherited a really fine, super curly, easy to frizz texture.

It’s funny people hooked onto the acne as an issue. I don’t think it’s the biggest factor. (I’m not going to quiz her about her exact body insecurities) I think the hair is number one and her (perfectly normal) figure is the second. She has really baggy style of dressing and does not like tight clothing in general.

I would just get her a swim cap maybe. I wouldn’t excuse swimming due to this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are tons of kids her age at our neighborhood pool, so I find this strange.

OP here. It’s school specific. She was very picky about her suit this year. It’s an extremely modestly cut, solid color speedo. But, she has no problem swimming at camp or with friends.

So then there shouldn’t be a problem. How much different can this be than swimming at camp?