Second piercing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be ok, if anything, they will hopefully learn what a pain it is to match two pairs of earrings when you wear them.

The problem comes when they get three or more holes, eventually in life, if they keep on getting more or wear heavier earrings, their ear lobes are more prone to stretch and tear. Has to be fixed with cosmetic surgery. One of my friends now always wears her hair over he ears because of the damage she did getting too many piercings in the 80s. One of her babies grabbed her ear and that's all it took.

This is….not a pain at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be ok, if anything, they will hopefully learn what a pain it is to match two pairs of earrings when you wear them.

The problem comes when they get three or more holes, eventually in life, if they keep on getting more or wear heavier earrings, their ear lobes are more prone to stretch and tear. Has to be fixed with cosmetic surgery. One of my friends now always wears her hair over he ears because of the damage she did getting too many piercings in the 80s. One of her babies grabbed her ear and that's all it took.

Lolol what? A pain to match the earrings? I’ve had the second hole since I was 10 and recently got a third. I enjoy changing up my earrings but it is really really not hard to “match” and my ears are fine. I wear quality jewelry that isn’t heavy.

Most kids don't. I found it to be too much of a pain early on and took it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be ok, if anything, they will hopefully learn what a pain it is to match two pairs of earrings when you wear them.

The problem comes when they get three or more holes, eventually in life, if they keep on getting more or wear heavier earrings, their ear lobes are more prone to stretch and tear. Has to be fixed with cosmetic surgery. One of my friends now always wears her hair over he ears because of the damage she did getting too many piercings in the 80s. One of her babies grabbed her ear and that's all it took.

Lolol what? A pain to match the earrings? I’ve had the second hole since I was 10 and recently got a third. I enjoy changing up my earrings but it is really really not hard to “match” and my ears are fine. I wear quality jewelry that isn’t heavy.

Most kids don't. I found it to be too much of a pain early on and took it out.

You must have been really lacking critical thinking skills when you were younger. When I first got mine I wore a gold ball stud in the second hole all the time and just switched out the first hole. A lot of people pick a nice gold or Diamond stud for the second or third hole and just leave them be.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to hijack this thread. Where did you all get your kids ear pierced? We live in Montgomery county.

[Anonymous]

I was the same age when I got my second piercing. My mom said "no" at first, but eventually gave in. I have never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 13yo son is asking for them.

You're only young once. We'll let him

Same here.

My 13yo wants to get drunks on weekends.

You're only young once. We'll let him.

Yes. Because those two things are very clearly the same.

The logic is the same. The kid wants, the kid gets, because the kid wants.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Many of DD’s teen friends are finding a good compromise with body piercings (think: below the neck). These are great because they are almost always hidden by clothing, and if left to heal over, no one will notice they were ever there.

What appropriate body piercing is below the neck besides bellybutton? Certainly these people aren’t getting their daughters nipples or genitals pierced as a compromise to an ear piercing, right?

Actually yes - they are. DD’s friends circle tends to be LGTBQI+ (not that it makes a difference), and 2 have gotten nipple piercings, with their mom’s consent (it’s required by law).

A third friend is significantly older (she 17) and got a labia piercing; supposedly her mom said she was going to do it anyway when she turns 18 and at least she could take her daughter to a reputable place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many of DD’s teen friends are finding a good compromise with body piercings (think: below the neck). These are great because they are almost always hidden by clothing, and if left to heal over, no one will notice they were ever there.

What appropriate body piercing is below the neck besides bellybutton? Certainly these people aren’t getting their daughters nipples or genitals pierced as a compromise to an ear piercing, right?

Actually yes - they are. DD’s friends circle tends to be LGTBQI+ (not that it makes a difference), and 2 have gotten nipple piercings, with their mom’s consent (it’s required by law).

A third friend is significantly older (she 17) and got a labia piercing; supposedly her mom said she was going to do it anyway when she turns 18 and at least she could take her daughter to a reputable place.

#crazytown

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to hijack this thread. Where did you all get your kids ear pierced? We live in Montgomery county.

My kids have gotten all of their regular lobe piercings at Montgomery Mall - the place in the middle. It changed names, I believe it's called Banter (or similar) now.

Cartilage + has been at Bethesda Tattoo

[Anonymous]

Some of the attitudes here towards ear piercing are hilariously outdated. I work in finance and the many of the women at my office have two or more lobe piercings, cartilage piercing etc. this is a very normal thing no one even blinks at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the attitudes here towards ear piercing are hilariously outdated. I work in finance and the many of the women at my office have two or more lobe piercings, cartilage piercing etc. this is a very normal thing no one even blinks at.

Hilarious - yes - but not “outdated.” That is not the reason.

Many responding in this thread come from other cultures; including modest cultures.

Their cultural perspective leads them to be vehemently against things like piercings or second piercings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 13yo son is asking for them.

You're only young once. We'll let him

Same here.

My 13yo wants to get drunks on weekends.

You're only young once. We'll let him.

Yes. Because those two things are very clearly the same.

The logic is the same. The kid wants, the kid gets, because the kid wants.

So, do you say no to everything that your kids wants then?

If you're truly and honestly equating getting a second piercing to allowing a kid to get drunk on weekends, then we should probably go ahead and wrap this conversation up. Because there is no common ground.

It's a question of scale, not logic. I can't believe I even have to explain this, but piercings and alcohol use are on very different parts of the scale

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got a second piercing as an teen and thirty years later the hole is still there. I hate it but it’s better than having a tattoo I regret I suppose.

How do you hate it? It's literally a dot the size of a pinhead on your ears that no one sees. What is there to hate?

I don't know. The hole is still really obvious - that's great that some people's heal all the way up, but mine didn't and it bothers me. I never wore an earring in it after I took out the starter stud.

Is it "really obvious" to anyone besides you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 13yo son is asking for them.

You're only young once. We'll let him

Same here.

My 13yo wants to get drunks on weekends.

You're only young once. We'll let him.

Yes. Because those two things are very clearly the same.

The logic is the same. The kid wants, the kid gets, because the kid wants.

So, do you say no to everything that your kids wants then?

If you're truly and honestly equating getting a second piercing to allowing a kid to get drunk on weekends, then we should probably go ahead and wrap this conversation up. Because there is no common ground.

It's a question of scale, not logic. I can't believe I even have to explain this, but piercings and alcohol use are on very different parts of the scale

Very true.

Alcohol is a core ingredient of social life in most places around the globe, while piercings scream TRASH TRASH TRASH kind of everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the attitudes here towards ear piercing are hilariously outdated. I work in finance and the many of the women at my office have two or more lobe piercings, cartilage piercing etc. this is a very normal thing no one even blinks at.

I don't even know that they count as outdated, something more uptight than that. I'm 48 years old and work in a law firm. No one bats an eye; not surprising since multiple piercings were pretty commonplace when I was a teen.