Poor Behavior Struggles

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here-- i also find the Ross Greene method hard to implement, and admit that that might be my own executive functioning issues coming into play. I just find our situation so completely overwhelming, and his methods requires so many conversations with a kid who refuses to talk about her behavior and emotions, and frankly, has next to no insight or awareness to their severity.

We started by “plan cing” in Greene’s terms almost everything. Which means letting go of expectations that the kid can’t meet. We weren’t able to start trying to plan B or add in expectations until this dramatic reduction in demands and changed approach had really lowered the temperature all around. Things felt less overwhelming then. To be clear, my kid did basically nothing but screens for a couple of months while we built trust, but we were in a pretty dire place.

that makes a lot of sense.

[Anonymous]

Have a 13 y-o version of this and just want to send empathy.

Feel like nothing works including hospitalizations, PHP, IOP, DBT, CBT.

Waiting on a neuropsych now although as PP said, not clear that an autism DX will make a difference.

Is it ODD? Is it PDA? Is it severe ADHD? No one can tell us.

Hugs. So glad to see this thread tonight after several hours os defiance and emotional abuse. Sometimes I feel so alone.